My Crush Likes My Best Friend: What Should I Do? (11 Crucial Things)

by April Maccario

Your crush likes your best friend, so what should you do? 

Perhaps you have been eyeing up this person for a while but you haven’t built up the courage to ask them out, and now it seems like it is too late because you have realized that they like your friend instead. He was in your class and you were planning on talking to him soon, but now he’s talking to her instead.

This may seem like a bad dream, but it is a common thing to happen, especially if your friend is a bit less shy than you, she may have gotten there first. However, it is important to first remember that he is not the only guy that you would ever like, and you must think about how important your friendship is with this person before you cause a scene. 

If you find out that this guy doesn’t like you back, and instead they like your friend, it can be hard to swallow, but you are not the only person to have ever found themselves in this situation.

There are things that you can do about it, but remember to always consider your friendship before you make any rash decisions that you may later regret. 

My Crush Likes My Best Friend: What Should I Do?

Does he like me or my friend? You have been looking at this guy in your class recently and you have realized that you have a crush on him and would like to ask him out. 

However, you have not yet been able to build up the courage to make a move and now he has told you that he likes your friend. This may be your worst nightmare, and it can be hard to accept, but it is important to remain calm. 

If you have realized that your crush doesn't like you back it is important to consider whether your friendship is worth losing over him, especially if your friend didn’t even know that you liked him before she started seeing him. It is important not to panic and to avoid making any rushed decisions that may ruin your friendship for good. 

Remember that it is not the end of the world and you are not the first person to have ever experienced this situation. If you handle the situation correctly you may either realize that your friend and your crush don’t have a future and you still have a chance, or instead you may come to the realization that they are a great partnership and find a way to be happy for them. 

Keep reading to find out what to do if your crush fancies your friend instead…

1. Try to find acceptance

When you realize that two people like each other, it is important to try to find a way to accept the situation and their feelings and find a way to be happy for them, especially if these people are your friends. 

2. Don’t beat yourself up

If you realize that your crush fancies someone else, it is important that you don’t beat yourself up about it or question what is wrong with you. It is just a chance that this person fancies one of your friends instead of you. Have patience and the right person for you will turn up. 

3. Be honest with the two of them about your own feelings

A love triangle can be a difficult situation for everyone involved, thus it is important to be clear about the things you are feeling from the beginning with both of these people. 

4. Consider setting boundaries

Consider setting boundaries

No one will be able to get over this situation immediately, so it is important to remember that your feelings may be something that won't go away straight away. It can be hard to watch your crush with your bestie, so agree to set some boundaries. 

5. Don’t put pressure on yourself

If your crush starts dating your bestie, don’t put pressure on yourself to start meeting up with the two of them straight away. Give your feelings time to settle and for the relationship to find a new balance.

6. Take time for yourself

While you may be hurt that your crush didn’t have feelings for you, remind yourself that someone else will. Take the time to look after yourself and find the best version of you, so that you will attract the right person. 

7. Surround yourself with your crowd

Surround yourself with those that make you feel good about yourself and those who will help you to forget your best friend’s crush. Soon, you will find peace with it. 

8. Stay busy

In difficult times like this, it is important to do something that makes you feel good about yourself. Keep yourself busy with your hobbies and meeting up with those around you that make you feel great. 

9. Be happy for them

It is important, in time to find a way to be happy for your bestie in their new relationship, even if it may be hard at the beginning. 

10. Work on your relationship

Work on your relationship

While it may be difficult at the beginning if it means that much to you, make the effort to maintain your relationship with your bestie. 

11. Don’t panic

One of the most important things to remember if you find yourself in this position is to avoid panicking and making rushed decisions you may regret. 

FAQs

How do you know if your crush likes your friend?

If you find out that your love interest likes someone else, or even likes your best friend, it is important to stay calm and avoid panicking. This is one of the situations that may ruin your friendship for good so it is important to handle the situation carefully. Remember that it is not the end of the world and you are not the only person to have ever experienced this situation.

Why does my crush always like my best friend?

If you have experienced this situation before and you have realized that your love interest likes your best friend again, it is important to remain calm and avoid rushing to conclusions. There is no need to get upset if your crush is interested in your friend instead, as there are so many more guys out there that are likely perfect for you, just have patience.

What should I do if my crush likes my best friend?

If your crush fancies your best friend and she likes him too, it may be the right thing to do to let them be and see how their relationship develops. Consider whether your friendship is worth ruining for this guy. Try and find a way to be happy for them in their relationship works out and if not, be there for your friend to help her to get through it. 

What do you do if you like your best friend?

If you like your bestie it is important to consider whether your friendship is strong enough to hold up if they tell you that they don’t like you back. If you know that your partnership is strong enough no matter what happens, then be honest and tell him about your feelings. However, make sure that you do have real feelings and not just a temporary crush first.

Does he have a crush on me?

If you want to find out whether someone has feelings for you then one of the easiest things to do to find out if this is true is to simply ask them how they feel. However, if you are too shy or are not ready to ask them in person, consider their body language and how they act around you to determine whether they have a crush on you or not. 

To Sum Up…

Finding yourself in a love triangle can be a very difficult and confusing situation for everyone involved. If you like someone and you realize that they don’t like you back but instead fancy someone else, it is important to stay calm, to remember that there are a lot more people out there for you and to avoid making any rushed decisions that you may later regret. 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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