How To Tell Your Crush You Like Him (17 Step-by-Step Ways)

by April Maccario

Crushing on someone has to be one of the best feelings in the world - every time you see them you get butterflies, you daydream about your future together, you fantasize about what they’re like in bed and no one can burst the love dazed bubble you float around in. 

On the contrary, telling your crush that you like them is absolutely terrifying because it is one of the most vulnerable things you’ll ever do. You might also have no idea how to tell a guy you like him.

We’ve all seen in the movies how people tell their crushes that they like them with big displays of love, but the reality can be very different and as a woman, it’s hard to know how to tell a guy you like him

But don’t panic, this article is here to make sure you know exactly how to tell a guy you like him, and more importantly, shares tips that will lower the risk of your attraction being unrequited. So, let’s jump straight in and take a look at the 17 tips you need to know when it comes to saying something to your crush about your feelings.

What You Need To Know

1. Make sure this isn’t a fleeting feeling

Let’s be honest, we’ve all had those crushes that feel incredibly intense for a few weeks, then later on we can’t quite remember why we crushed on this person so much. You definitely don’t want to tell somebody how you feel if they are this type of fleeting crush, because these kinds of crushes are normally based on lust and you might change your mind further down the line. 

So before you do anything, you need to be sure that you really like this guy and you want to be with him for the long run romantically, not just for one quick lusted filled night.

2. Make sure you aren’t crushing on them because of outside pressures

If all of your friends and family have partners, it can be easy to feel pressured to find yourself a partner. It’s important to know that you don’t need a man by your side to be happy. So, don’t tell a guy that you have a crush on him just because you want somebody by your side, because it’s not fair on them and you’ll probably end up in a relationship with somebody that doesn’t actually make you happy.

You need to be sure that you are crushing on someone because you actually have feelings for them, not because you feel like you should be with someone.

3. Become close with them first

Become close with them first

Before you tell your crush that you like them, you need to establish a relationship with them. You will want to become friends with this person, not only so it doesn’t seem intense when you tell them that you like them, but also so you can actually get to know them and see if you really do have feelings for them, or just liked the idea of them.

4. Be sure they are single

One of the most important things and first things you need to do when it comes to how to tell a guy you like him is to figure out whether the person you are crushing on is single or not. If they are in a relationship, stay well clear of them. You don’t want to allow your attraction for someone to get stronger if they’re already taken, and you certainly don’t want to tell them you like them because you could cause a relationship to break up, or you might just get rejected hard. Crushing on someone in a relationship is never a good idea.

5. Show them that you like them

Before you try and work out how to tell a guy you like him it’s a good idea to show him that you like him. You can show someone you like them by doing small favors for them, by complimenting them, by listening to them and remembering the things they tell you. Body language is also important when it comes to showing someone how you feel, so be sure you always center your body towards them, hold eye contact with them when you can and brush your hand against them or touch their arm and see if sparks fly.

If you show him that you like him, he might even be the one to spark up the conversation about feelings.

6. Try to figure out whether they like you too

If you’re scared about getting hurt by telling someone that you like them, which almost everyone is, it’s a good idea to try and figure out whether they like you before you declare your feelings towards them. You will be able to tell if they like you if they are flirting with you, being extra kind to you, doing favors for you, giving you their undivided attention, making eye contact with you, and showing other body language signs.

7. Think about whether telling them is inappropriate in any way

Is this crush you have inappropriate? By telling this person that you’re crushing on them, will it create an inappropriate situation? These are two questions you need to ask yourself before declaring your feelings to someone. For example, if you’re crushing on your boss, coworker, or friend’s ex-boyfriend, it’s probably inappropriate, and telling them how you feel isn’t a good idea.

8. Decide when and where you’re going to tell them

If you’re ready to tell somebody how you feel about them, you’ll need to think of the best time and place that you can tell them. You should always try and do this in person unless you physically can’t and have a long-distance friendship with them, in which case you will want to call or text this person

If you’re meeting this person in real life to tell them, you want to do so in an uninterrupted environment that’s somewhere you both feel comfortable. A good example of where you can tell a guy you like him is sitting together at a park - it’s quiet and intimate but there’s still other people around and space in case you want to leave after or they do.

9. Prepare what you’re going to say

It goes without saying that you need to think about what you’re going to say to this guy in advance. You don’t want to make it too wordy, and you can simply say, “I like you”. However, you might want to practice how you’ll say this to the person you’re crushing on. Pretending you’re having a conversation with them and telling them in a mirror might be beneficial before you go to meet them.

10. Avoid big gestures

Although you might have seen how people declare their feelings for their crushes in movies with big romantic gestures, it is a good idea to steer well away from this idea. You don’t want to make things more complicated than they have to be. Don’t make a  big gesture to the person you’re crushing on, because it’ll only put pressure on them and make you feel stupid if they don’t reciprocate how you feel. Keep it simple.

11. Put some effort into your appearance

Before you go to meet your crush, you’ll obviously want to ensure you look as good as you can. You don’t need to put an extreme amount of effort into your look, but you’ll want to ensure you look like the best version of yourself. After all, this could be a moment that you and this guy remember forever if all goes well. 

12. Make your crush feel comfortable

It’s extremely important that you make your crush feel comfortable when you tell them you like them. You don’t want to put any pressure on them, so keep trying and keep it as casual and chatty as possible. Don’t tell them how you feel as soon as you meet up with them, just let the conversation flow naturally until it reaches a point you feel ready to tell them.

13. Be confident and don’t act like their decision is vital to your life

It takes a lot of courage and confidence to decide to tell your crush you like them in the first place, so be sure that you carry this confidence when you do tell them. You also don’t want to make your crush feel like their response to your declaration is the be-all and end-all for you. Be yourself, be confident, and be strong.

14. Don’t pressure them into responding

When you do finally tell your crush how you feel, it’s important you don’t pressure them into responding to you straight away. Of course, your crush might reply straight away and tell you how they feel, but they might also need a bit of time to process what you just said. It’s a good idea to actually tell this person that there’s no rush and no pressure to respond.

15. Celebrate with them if they feel the same

Celebrate with them if they feel the same

Obviously the best-case scenario is if your crush feels the same about you. If this is the case, you and your crush will want to celebrate the fact that you both like each other. You might want to give them a hug, possibly even a kiss if there has been some sexual tension between you for a long time, or you might want to just go grab a drink together. Be happy!

16. See if they still want to be friends if they don’t feel the same

If your crush tells you that they don’t feel the same, it can be really difficult to hear. However, you will most likely not want to show them how invested you were in them, so try and play it cool. Tell them that it’s totally fine and ask if they want to still be friends with you. Try to hide any tears or negative emotions until you leave them. Also, definitely don’t get angry with them. 

17. Move forward with pride

However your crush reacted to you telling them how you feel, you need to move forward with pride and confidence. It’s a big deal telling someone how you feel, and you should be really proud of yourself for opening up and being vulnerable. If they reciprocated how you feel, you should feel excited about what’s to come. If they didn’t, just know there are so many people out there that will reciprocate your feelings. At least you now know how to tell a guy you like him!

FAQs

How do I show my crush that I like him?

Before you actually tell your crush that you like them, you can show them that you like them. Take a look at tip number 5 for more information on this, but overall, you can show them by being kind to them, flirting with them, letting your body language speak to them, complimenting them, and actively listening to them.

Is it OK to tell your crush you like him?

It’s definitely OK to tell your crush that you like them, and it can feel great getting your feelings off your chest. However, there are some cases in which you are better keeping your feeling to yourself. For example, if they are your boss or your best friend’s partner, it’s not a good idea to tell them. But, if they are single and you wouldn’t be creating an inappropriate relationship with them, go ahead and say something!

How do I tell my crush I like him over text?

It’s never a good idea to tell someone how you feel over text, as it comes across a lot better in person. However, if this person is physically far away from you and you might not see them for a while, it might be necessary to tell them over text. When you feel like the conversation is flowing and has a romantic or flirty tone, you can simply say something like, "I have to tell you, I like you as more than just a friend" and see how they respond.

How do u tell a guy u like them?

Hopefully, the 17 tips in this article will help you understand how to tell a guy you like him. Overall, you will want to try and gauge his interest in you first then meet in person, look your best, be confident, and tell him how you feel. Make sure your crush feels comfortable and they know there’s no pressure on them reciprocating your feelings.

How do I drop hints to my crush?

You can drop hints to your crush that you like them by flirting with them and showing them that you like them, rather than saying it. You need to use body language to show them your interest, flirt with them, do them favors, compliment them, spend time alone with them, and be kind to them. 

In Summary...

Now that you’re all clued up on how to tell a guy you like him, go out and get those feelings off your chest! The best of luck with getting your man, and if he doesn’t reciprocate, at least you know how to tell a guy you like him for next time.

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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