How To Recover From Saying I Love You Too Soon (5 Tips)

by April Maccario

Saying I love you too soon is a common occurrence in a relationship, the moment was romantic, your heart was racing, and your mind couldn’t think of another perfect sentence to commemorate the moment other than “I love you”. Nevertheless, as those words left your mouth, you realized it was the first time you said it in the relationship, in fact, it was the first time it was said at all.

Naturally, you became nervous and began to wonder why you even said those words. You asked yourself if you really meant it, and wondered if you could possibly take them back. A lot of things seemed to cloud your thoughts, and you desperately needed answers. 

If you’re wondering how to bounce back from saying I love you too soon, then you’ve come to the right place. This article will tell you viable ways to bounce back if you’ve said those words too soon. 

What To Do If You Said I Love you To Soon 

1. Don’t take your words back

One common mistake people make when they say I love you is trying to take it back. You might feel the need to apologize for saying it or act like you didn’t mean it, but that won’t erase the fact that you already said it and it won’t make your partner forget your words. As a matter of fact, things would only get more awkward if you try to take them back.

At the early stage of a relationship, honesty matters; and being honest with your partner is an essential key to making the relationship work. If your partner gets the feeling that it’s quite easy for you to elude your feelings and the statements that you make, he might begin to doubt what you say from time to time. Nevertheless, being brutally honest, even to the point of confessing that you uttered those words, will make your partner regard you even more.

Another way to ensure you’re not compelled to take back your words is by remaining calm throughout the process. There’s a tendency for people to get nervous, especially after knowing they said I love you too soon. A nervous mind will be all over the place, and make things even more awkward,  try to maintain your composure and stand by what you said, no matter how awkward it may be. 

2. Don’t overthink

Overthinking is a regular occurrence in such a situation, you start wondering if you’ve ruined a cherished moment between you and your partner. More so, you wonder whether things would return to normal after those words have been uttered. Several thoughts might flood your mind, and you might not really know what to do about the situation. 

At that moment, overthinking feels like the only resolute; but on the contrary, it only makes you feel regret, frustration, self-pity, and other bitter emotions. If you’re wondering how to get over saying I love you, one way to do this is by not overthinking. No matter how awkward things might get, this is one prudent way to avoid negative thoughts from flooding your mind. 

As a matter of fact, when a person goes through something devastating or embarrassing, the mind is unable to function at an optimal pace. Thus, trying to stay calm and refraining from thinking too much, will only help you control the situation better

So, how then do you stop thinking, when that’s all you can do?  Simply try to distract yourself in the meantime, and if you can, think only positive thoughts. If you need a few seconds alone, excuse yourself and go somewhere else to think, and calm down. Let your mind recollect the amazing things that led up to you saying I love you. Ponder on your emotions, and constantly focus on how great your relationship is so far – and with that, you’ll feel better.

3. Don’t act funny 

The next stage that occurs after regretfully saying I love you, is extreme cautiousness around your partner. You start to feel that things are different now, and you have to be careful so you don’t repeat the same mistake. On the contrary, this is an entirely wrong mindset, if you start acting in a way that’s different from your normal behavior, your partner would definitely notice. 

Thereafter, this will cause him/her to unnecessarily think deeply about the situation maybe he didn’t take things so seriously, but now your acting weird, he’ll probably put more thought to it. Plus, he would feel like you’re uncomfortable sharing the way you feel even while dating. This will only cause more distance between the two of you, and definitely spur up discomfort.

Don’t act funny

Acting strange around your partner won’t help you revolve in any way, it might just make things more awkward. Since it’s impossible to undo the past, it’s essential to simply embrace the future without regrets. Whatever actions you’re taking should be irrespective of how your partner reacted to the situation (whether positive or awkwardly), don’t let the issue steal your sleep.

4. Try saying it again

To anyone reading this, saying I love you again sounds like a total disaster, how does a person really bounce back from the embarrassment by saying the exact thing that caused it?  It might feel like a bad idea, but this sole action can greatly condition your mind towards something positive. 

The process of doing something again has a certain feeling attached to it, it delivers comfort because you’re already prepared for an outcome. This is somewhat synonymous to saying I love you again, the reason why you felt how you did, saying it for the first time, was because you hadn’t done it in the relationship before. 

So, you were overwhelmed by the fear of the unknown, but as long as your relationship survived those words, it means there’s still room for you to say more. This doesn’t have to be in a formal setting, it could be at any random moment, perhaps when going out in the morning. The more you get accustomed to the feeling that follows, the less overwhelmed you will feel.  

5. Simply let your relationship blossom

After you’ve regretfully said I love you, followed these steps, gained your confidence back, and now saying love words regularly – what next? All that’s left is to allow your relationship to blossom. Imperatively, this would only work when extra effort is put in by you and your partner.  You have to get to know one another more and eliminate all forms of awkwardness between the two of you.

More intricately, when the love bomb was thrown into the relationship too soon, things might have gotten intense. So, really getting to know your partner and having fun while doing it, can alleviate any form of pressure already put on the relationship. Plus, the early stage of dating connotes simply living in the moment

If things get too formal between you and your partner, you wouldn’t adequately live out your fun days before things get serious. Focus on the things the both of you like, and if no one is saying love words for a certain period, know that this is completely normal. Be happy with your partner, and don’t be under pressure. 

FAQs

What do you do when you say I love you too soon?

Saying you love someone too soon can put too much pressure on the relationship Nevertheless, know that you can’t undo the past, so you have to embrace your present. Don’t deny your statements of affection, and try not to think about it too much. Focus on positive thoughts, and embrace what you’ve said, at random times, you could even say love words to that person again, in order to get accustomed to the feeling. 

Is there such things as saying I love you too soon?

Saying you love a person too soon is discouraged for a number of reasons. The word love has an intense meaning, plus, at the early stage of the relationship, you may not know if he feels the same. Though you may really feel love for this person, it takes the focus off living in the moment and transcends to seemingly building a life together, which can put too much pressure on the new partners.  

Why would a guy say I love you too soon?

A guy may want to say how much he’s in love with you, as soon as possible, if he’s the type that simply wears his emotions on his sleeves. He may feel the need to share his emotions and not keep it a secret because he wants you on board as well. Though this may put you under immense pressure, simply understand that perhaps, that’s the kind of man he is.

Can you say I love you after a week?

Saying you love someone only after a week can easily change the dimensions of the dating process. Suddenly, there are too many expectations, and both of you want to act the way lovers do. Nevertheless, with many expectations, there’s always room for disappointments. This is why it’s best to wait a while before you say you love them.

What can I say instead of I Love You?

If you want to express your emotions towards your new partner without using the word ‘love’, alternatives like telling them how much you like, appreciate, cherish, or adore them can be used. This would seemingly take the pressure off the statement of love you would want to say at that moment.

On That Note...

Did you enjoy this article on how to handle telling someone you love them too soon? Remember to take things slow, and try to remain calm if you’ve expressed your emotions more than you intended. Once you follow the aforementioned steps, you’ll be fine. 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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