Why Do Men Watch Porn? (10 Little-Known Reasons)

by April Maccario

Let’s not beat around the bush. Porn is quite common among men. From the days of the magazine, video cassettes recorders (VCR) to the era of DVDs, and now the Internet, people have raised the question “why men watch porn”? 

While the answer is not as simple as ABC, many have concluded that men are naturally obsessed with sex. Hence, they are easily drawn to porn, which obviously offers lots of sex. It’s also very common for women to think their partner watches porn for reasons connected to them, such as not being good in bed, not attractive, or the love has gone cold. 

Therefore, watching porn is considered cheating for lots of women. While this might or might not be true, guys do have their rights reserved to watch porn, and having a desire to cheat is not the main reason men watch porn.

In fact, research shows that some guys use porn as a tool to regulate emotions rather than for sexual pleasure. So, this article will likely help you see reason from his side and probably find ways to reach a common ground in your relationship.

Watching Porn - 10 Reasons Why Men Do It

Watching Porn - 10 Reasons Why Men Do It

1. Fulfillment Of A Basic Desire

When it comes to the expression of sexual needs, men can be very basic. Unlike ladies who want everything to be perfect, the needs of men, right from the teenage years, are very elementary. Because relationships can become very complex and require attention, porn is a very quick way of channeling boxed-in desires. Think about it; It’s like a world where everything is already perfect and they need not put in too much effort to have their basic desires met.

2. Masturbation

It’s already an established fact that lots of men masturbate which doesn’t exclude the married ones. But here’s another fact, research shows that they hardly just get down to masturbation without the aid of visual or audio stimulation. In fact, some require both stimulations at the same time while others can make do with the video. 

This means that pornography may just a means to an end, and emotions may not be involved. They might even consider it as means of remaining faithful because while their partner isn’t available for one reason or another, they use masturbation to fill the gap. Therefore porn comes in like a means to make masturbation easy.

3. Men Are Visual Creatures 

Another thing you will need to understand is that men are visual creatures and there are intrinsic differences between a man and a woman. While women are judged by a lot of other factors even at the first meeting, the physical attributes of a woman is a strong factor for lots of men. 

That’s the same thing that drives him to watch pron. He’s excited by the physical attributes the women in the videos have. While a part of him knows that the perfect bodies actresses present are most times medically enhanced, this doesn’t diminish the excitement but it does give him a reality-check; so he doesn’t expect such from a real-life partner.

4. It’s Just Entertainment 

Let’s be honest; porn is just like watching a movie on Netflix on a work-free weekend, and can also suffice for many men. The only difference is porn movies have more sex and combine the fact that men are visual creatures and are excited by the physical attributes of women. Think about it this way, It's like a win-win situation. They feast their eyes on what sexually excites as a means of unwinding during boring times.

5. Variety

Men and women are a species of variety. It just so happens that this variety is sometimes desired during sexual pleasure for some men. In fact, some psychologists and relationship coaches suggest role-playing to spice up the sex life of couples by giving their partners some form of variety. 

Let’s think about it, how much variety can one partner deliver? The variety porn presents is almost endless. The tons of scripted sex scenarios acted out in porn videos excite men more and this causes them to consume more.

6. Curiosity 

This is more common among young adults. When they are still at that age of curiosity, exploring with raging testosterone. Understanding the female anatomy can be quite a task especially when they’ve not yet been exposed to the real thing. Porn is one of the readily available sources devoid of any censoring. 

While many guys know that the content is scripted and may probably have nothing to do with how people have sex in real life, they still like it and find it useful in fulfilling their curiosity.

7. Fulfilling fantasies

As far as fantasies go, lots of people have them. This isn’t exclusive to the men. Take it from me, being a good partner isn’t being in denial about desiring other people. It’s admitting that acting on such fantasies can’t bring long-lasting happiness and will lead to hurting those you love that makes a good partner. 

A lot of men, therefore, think of using porn as a means of fulfilling their sexual fantasies without actually going the whole nine yards of sneaking around, cheating, and hurting their partner. Don’t take this the wrong way, I’m not saying this is a good reason to look at strange naked women on the internet, it’s only for one to know that it’s nothing real. Just like the video game world is nothing more than fun for lots of people who play them, the porn world is just fantasy land.

8. To Learn More

Believe it or not, lots of people watch porn to get their A-game on in the bedroom. This could happen when a man has a woman that’s more open to exploring different sexual styles or positions with him. Because these videos are full of lots of creativity when it comes to sex positions, guys tend to view them to learn a thing a two. 

Well, I’m not insinuating you should be happy and encourage him more to watch porn since you’ll enjoy him better, I’m only saying it’s not all about cheating or not finding you attractive anymore.

9. To Feel Powerful

If you’ve had the chance to see the conventional type of porn, i.e between heterosexuals. It always portrays a scenario where a woman gives-in to the sexual needs of a man easily. Some porn even portrays scenarios where the lady is throwing herself at a guy. This gives a pseudo-macho feeling making them feel more powerful and desired. 

10. To Relieve Stress

The pattern of everyday modern life can be quite monotonous, exhausting, and stressful. Porn is sometimes used by many to break the continuous monotonous cycle of work and survival. While other stress-relieving activities might take some planning, such as hanging out with friends or booking a movie ticket (and actually going to see the movie), a guy can find porn readily available on his phone or computer as a quick way to shortly escape from the usual cycle of modern-day survival. 

He does all this without having to spend too much time planning or going through the headaches brought on by other activities. In fact, the “story” in porn videos usually come without much narrative and are easy to grab; so, they do achieve the stress-relieving aim.

To Conclude...

I hope you enjoyed these informative points. If your guy watches porn, while they are not in any way an excuse to encourage the act, they are pointers to understanding your partner more, especially when it pertains to sex. So, instead of viewing the matter as a taboo, you could get to see things from his angle and find common ground. Hey, you can tell us how you feel in the comment section and feel free to share with other men and women in a relationship who might like reading it.

April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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