Why Did He Unfollow Me On Instagram And Social Media? (6 Reasons Why You’re Not On His List)

by April Maccario

You may be wondering why someone unfollowed you on social media. Perhaps you noticed that your ex-boyfriend or partner recently unfollowed you but there is usually nothing to worry about and it is likely nothing to do with you. It may be especially hard to realize that he unfollowed you on social media if it was soon after a breakup, because of the mix of emotions you are experiencing anyway.

You may be heartbroken and in a confusing tangle of emotions that everyone deals with after a break up so it can be hard to know how to deal with him unfollowing you on social media too. After something like a breakup, it can be easy to let your thoughts run away from you and lead yourself to make assumptions that are not based on truth or reality.

Perhaps you were the one that initiated the breakup or you are the one that has been broken up with by your ex-partner, either way, these things are not easy to deal with and you may be left wondering whether you made the right decision. In the days of social media, relationships and breakups have been made a lot more confusing and difficult than ever before. 

Why Did He Unfollow Me On Instagram?

If you have recently broken up with someone and they unfollowed your social media accounts, it may make you feel even worse about things. However, it may be the case that it doesn’t really have anything to do with you and it is just this person’s way of trying to deal with the confusing emotions of a breakup. He may even be wondering whether he made the right decision. 

You have shared your home with someone for so long and now they are suddenly out of your life, it can be hard to know what to do when that person who was always by your side is now not there. It can be hard to know how to deal with these types of situations, especially if you have never gone through a breakup before and it can be easy to overthink every little action. 

You likely feel as if there is a hole that has opened up in your sphere since the breakup and now he has unfollowed you on social media too. This is just another slap in the face when you are already heartbroken. However, it is not a sign that your ex no longer cares about you, rather it is probably a sign that he still does care and it is just too hard. 

Keep reading to find out the reasons he unfollowed you on social media…

1. He is heartbroken

If your ex broke up with you or you broke up with him, it is highly likely that he is as heartbroken as you are about the end of your relationship. No matter how long you were together, breaking up with someone is one of the most awful things that you will experience and there is nothing other than time that will help you move on and heal from the pain. 

Even if your ex broke up with you it is likely that he is experiencing emotional trauma. Unless he was a horrible person in which case you should probably stop thinking and obsessing about you, it is likely that he is currently feeling the same that you are and is struggling to get through. Just because he thinks breaking up was the correct thing to do doesn’t make it easier. 

Breaking up with a partner takes strength and courage and it is never an easy thing to do. He may not tell you but he may even be wondering whether he did the right thing in breaking up with you in the first place and thus finds it hard to see your social media posts while he is trying to figure out his own feelings and thoughts about how to move on from you. 

2. He is already still thinking about you all of the time

he is already still thinking about you all of the time

One of the reasons that someone may stop following you on Instagram or social media may be that he is already still thinking about you all of the time. If you broke up with each other and decided to end your relationship, he is likely trying to move on as you are from your past. However, he may not be able to do so with constant reminders of his past with you on his phone.

There were likely issues in your relationship that caused you to come to a breakup and these things have likely not gone away. It is important to both take the time to think and have space from each other for a while to decide whether you are really happier without one another. It is probably a good idea to severely communicate with each other for a while. 

After a breakup, it is a good idea to have a month or so of no contact so that you can really figure out your thoughts and feelings regarding the breakup. If you still have constant reminders of each other on your phones it is going to be hard to really move on and decide whether you made the right decision or not. Take some time to really think about what it is you want. 

3. He is trying to move on

Perhaps you broke up with your ex or you mutually decided that it was the right decision for both of you and now he has unfollowed you on social media and you are wondering why. It is likely that he has done so so that he can try to move on from you and get over you. It is likely that he would struggle for you if he sees your photos every day on social media. 

Perhaps he is unsure whether the breakup was the right idea and he is trying to get some headspace to really figure out what he wants and whether he should think about getting back together with you. It is likely not a sign that he no longer cares about you and rather that he is unable to move on or gain headspace when he is constantly reminded of you. 

This is especially true if you are a person that posts a lot on social media. If he sees your photos and stories on social media every day he will find it difficult to take any steps toward moving on from you and your relationship. Take this as a sign that it is likely he is still thinking of you often and is trying to find a means to move on from you. 

4. It still hurts

Rather than thinking that him unfollowing you is a sign that he no longer loves you, take it as a sign that he still cares a lot about you and he has not gotten over you yet. It still hurts him to see photos of you on his feed every day. He cannot face seeing you getting on with things without him. It hurts him too much to see these updates so has chosen to stop following you instead. 

Perhaps you are even guilty of posting a bit too much after your breakup in order to make him jealous or make him think that you have already moved on from him. He thinks you are doing okay without him, you are trying new things that you never did when you were with him and you are now meeting new people. All of this hurts him too much to see it every day. 

The thought of you potentially already dating a new person that is not him bothers him so much that he has decided he can no longer see it every day. Despite that he may have chosen to initiate the breakup, he may now be finding it more difficult than you to get over you and resume dating life without you. He is likely still heartbroken if this is how he is acting. 

5. It isn’t about you

Him unfollowing you on social media may feel like it is a personal attack on you and a sign that he no longer loves you. It is more likely a sign that is not about you and is rather a reflection of the place that he is in himself. It may not be a personal attack on you, and if he is not a bad person then it is likely that it has nothing to do with you. 

He is not trying to upset or hurt you by unfollowing you on social media. It is likely that you had a huge impact on him and he now doesn’t know where to turn without you. This likely means that is more about him than you. He is not doing it in a malicious way in an attempt to make you even more hurt than you already are, but rather a sign that he himself is struggling. 

It is a sign that in his own head he has lost you and he cannot get back with you because he decided to break up with you and now you are moving on and doing okay without having him in your sphere. He is doing his best to move on from you but is finding it too difficult to see you popping up on his social media feed every day. 

5. He’s trying to get you to react

he's trying to get you to react

Another reason that he has chosen to stop following you on social media may be in an attempt to get a reaction from you. This may be especially true if you know that he is somewhat immature and has communication issues anyway. This may have caused him to act in this way. He has unfollowed you in an attempt to get you to react and feel jealous. 

It may be difficult but one thing that you need to remember is to avoid responding or sending any text messages to him about it. Don’t panic or stress about how he is acting after you have broken up with each other. Even if he starts dating a new person or acts in ways that you would never act in yourself, you have broken up and it is time to stop obsessing over him.

He may have unfollowed you to try and find out how quickly you would notice or respond to him doing so. He may also be trying to see whether when you do notice that he has stopped following you, how you will respond. If this is how he is acting, he is trying to get a response to show himself that he still has some amount of control over you and your actions.

FAQs

Why did someone unfollow me on Instagram?

You are heartbroken after a breakup, and now your ex has unfollowed you on social media too. This feels like just another slap in the face from him when you are down. However, this is likely not a sign that he no longer cares about you and rather an indicator that he does care about you still and finds it too hard to see constant updates of your life on his phone. 

Why would a guy unfollow you on Instagram?

It is likely that if a person has unfollowed you on Instagram that they find it too hard for whatever reason to see constant updates of your life on his screen. It may be that he has feelings for you that he knows are unrequited and he cannot live his life without thinking about you if you are constantly appearing on his phone. 

What does it mean if he unfollows?

If a person or an ex unfollows you it means that they will no longer see updates about you on social media. When you may have appeared previously on their social feeds, they will no longer see your posts or stories. This is likely not a sign that this person doesn’t care about you but rather a sign that they find it too hard to have constant reminders of you on their feed. 

Is unfollowing someone immature?

Unfollowing on Instagram does not indicate a person is immature and it is rather likely a sign that they are trying to move on with their own lives without having a constant reminder of an ex on their phone screen. You may see it as something rude and heartless, however, it is likely a sign that your ex is still thinking about you and finds it hard to see constant reminders of your photos on his screen.

Is it rude to unfollow someone on Instagram?

It is not rude to stop following a person on social media, especially if seeing their posts or stories is not making you feel happy about it. It may be a good idea to stop following your ex for at least a short amount of time after you have broken up so that you can have the time and space to move on from them without having constant reminders of your past on your screen.

To Sum Up…

You may be heartbroken and emotionally confused after you have broken up with your ex and now you are wondering why he unfollowed you on social media. This may feel like just another slap in the face by your ex. However, it is important to realize that this may actually indicate that he still cares about you and he can’t stop thinking about you and thus finds it difficult to see constant reminders of you. 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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