Why Are Younger Guys Attracted To Me (23 Reasons Why Younger Men Find You Attractive)

Last updated on June 18, 2022 by April Maccario

I find it very hilarious and exciting when younger men tell me they've got a crush on me. I mean, it does make me feel good, but I always wondered why they fancied me and not someone their own age. Well, I did a little research, and I'm more than excited to share the findings with you. 

First, as you get older, you realize it’s a lot easier to get the attention of a younger man without even trying. Maybe you look younger than your age, but that’s not the only icing on the cake; in fact, some of these men don’t care about age at all. 

There’s more to you that keeps their interest burning, they may be years younger, but don’t mind dating women older than them.

When you begin to wonder, “why are younger men attracted to me?” Think back to the times you were into older men (if you were) what attracted you to them despite the age difference? 

If you can answer this question for why some men prefer older ladies over young women in a relationship, then you already have the reasons you’re looking for. If not, here are twenty-three reasons why. 

23 Reasons Why Younger Men Would Want To Date An Older Woman

1. They Are Attracted To Financial Stability 

Younger men may be attracted to your financial stability or, in simple terms, your money. When you're financially stable, it takes up almost 30% of what he spends on. Say, for instance, he wants you to come over for the weekend, and you can drive yourself to his place or pay for your flight ticket. He wouldn't have to woo you with money like he would a younger woman. 

If you're rich, you end up taking care of them with your money. It gives them a chance to focus on other things in the relationship that don’t have anything to do with finances. 

2. It Boosts Their Ego

It would give a younger man a sense of accomplishment to know that an older woman has developed feelings for him. Appealing to an older woman would mean there's more to him than meets the eye; that his intellectual capacity, sense of humor, and style are intriguing. 

That’s probably why he doesn’t mind dating a lady years older than him. Younger men sometimes feel that having women years older than them in their life elevates their level. It makes them feel good about themselves, and maybe, even raise them above their peers. 

Also, once men reach their mid-twenties, they start developing a strong desire for older women. It gives them a different outlook on life, especially when the woman in question likes him too. Ask yourself this, what would make you date younger men? It’s probably the thrill or the idea that you still got it right? People want to believe that they could be in a relationship with anyone they like, regardless of age.

3. They Are Attracted To Your Experiences

they are attracted to your experiences

As an older woman, you've got a truckload of life experiences to share with a man younger than you. They are intrigued by those experiences and would like to be a part of them. Your life experience and maybe even your work/business ethics would teach him new skills, and your relationship experience would help him grow and expose him to new perspectives. 

There’s your sexual experience too, some would say this is the icing on the cake. They want to be with you so they can learn some skills in bed and know the things that make a woman tick. 

4. It's Comforting 

You may not realize this, but many people love the comfort of being with someone older than them. A younger man who likes you might know you’re always going to be looking out for his well-being because of the ‘motherly’ nature in you. He will want to be around someone who would bring him peace, and as an older woman, that comes to you quickly. 

Younger men feel like older women would be more understanding and forgiving even though they make certain mistakes in the relationship.

5. The Mental Stability 

As a grown woman, you have reasonable control over your mental state, you’re not seeking to prove yourself to anyone. This is an exceptional quality to a young man. Younger women are still at the phase where they seek validation from other people; friends or family. 

At this point in your life, you know what you want and are determined to go for that regardless of what people think. This makes younger men attracted to the stability and maturity they feel they’ll get with you.

6. They Want To Grow 

He desires growth, and the easiest way to do that is to be with older women. He feels you can nurture him into his best version. Being with you gives him the best of both worlds, which is learning from your life experience. Being with an older woman can make a young boy feel like a man real quick. 

He would begin to relate differently with his peers, and his overall behavior changes. It makes him mature quickly, or at least feel like he is grown. 

7. Care

It's in your motherly nature to care for him, and that's what he wants. It's different from trying to ”mother” him. That tender loving you can give would make a younger man feel so cared for, wanted, and appreciated by you. That's the kind of affection you bring to the table when you fall in love with him, and he wants that safety net. 

8. Art Of Cooking 

art of cooking

Maybe not all older women get the hang of this, but most of them master the art of cooking over time. It's no secret that the way to a man's heart is food. It's not out of the ordinary that a younger man would base his attraction on your cooking skills or your exquisite taste. 

Younger ladies are still excited about eating out at a fancy restaurant and going somewhere new on every date. Older women have had a lot of that and may appreciate a home-cooked dinner better.

9. Self-Confidence

Older women are often very confident, they have seen and gone through many things in life which have only made them stronger. This is probably one trait younger men are attracted to, and would rather get into a relationship with older women. 

Men are attracted to strong, independent women who are already established and know what they want; it takes the confusion out of the relationship. If you date younger men, you might actually be boosting their self-esteem. If this younger guy is in a relationship with you, he probably feels better about himself, and safer with a lady that knows what she wants.

10. Good Vibes 

There's this energy you give off when you are older - vibes that scream freedom, and even stability in a relationship. Younger men want to have fun, but not all of them have the resources to do so. Being with you and enjoying your energy would trigger their adventurous side. 

Frustrated that he doesn't pay you as much attention as he used to?
This is one of the most common issues our female readers face.

It makes you wonder whether he actually likes you or not.

Take this free quiz to see if he actually likes you!

It's the best way for both of you to have a great time with each other, traveling and just checking things off your bucket list without a care in the world. 

11. You Look Younger Than Your Age 

It's a huge plus when you look younger than you do. You can't stop it, younger men would be drawn to you. The mere fact that you are older than they thought you were but look so young leaves them so intrigued by you. It's also fascinating to them that you still look as good as you do.

I mean, at first glance, it's never the intention, but as I said, it becomes a plus. If you're honest, you'd admit it makes you feel good every time. 

12. You Have A Different Perspective 

Your perspective is going to be very different from everything they've known, and your experiences give you that. You'll let them grow by teaching them to understand and handle their emotions. You're more comfortable to be with because you don't have the time to fool around. 

It's easier to be honest with you because you create a judgment-free zone. Being with you helps them see life from a different and more mature angle. This new perspective helps them form a stable version of themselves.

13. No Pressure 

Unlike a younger woman, you're not dealing with so much on your plate or trying to figure your life out. You already know what you want and don't require so much from a partner. As an older woman, you are less dependent on him and younger men like that. They like a woman who can do great by herself and is emotionally intelligent. 

A lot of younger women out there are very needy, and that puts pressure on the men who are just trying to find their paths in life. In simpler terms, your baggage is way less. 

14. They Can Be Themselves Around You 

Men like women who allow them to be themselves in the relationship, they don’t like ladies who shut down every idea just because they are afraid to take risks. There's so much an older woman can overlook because she's seen it before, and knows how to deal with it. 

With a lady his age, they're both making mistakes together, and most times, he would have to put up a front that he has it all together even when it's clear, he doesn't. It's easier to be himself in a relationship where the lady isn’t quick to judge him. 

15. Your Motherly Love 

your motherly love

Some younger men outrightly want all that motherly love you have to offer. There's so much mental and emotional love you have to offer, and they want to be cared for unconditionally. It’s called ‘mommy syndrome,’ a condition where a man wants a woman to get everything done for him; his laundry, cooking, and others. 

It's mostly older women who are willing to put up with this type of thing. Younger women would back out faster, they're not up for that type of sacrifice most of the time. 

16. You Are Direct

Older women tend to be more transparent in their thoughts, and that’s a trait a lot of men admire. This isn't easy with women younger than him at all, they're probably still trying to understand themselves. 

Older women are more likely to tell the men in their lives about their dreams, accomplishments, visions, and what they expect in clear terms. You wouldn't expect so much from a younger partner because you are aware he's still growing. 

17. Attraction

Some younger men naturally think that older women are more attractive than women their age. The way they think, how they look, and the things they want out of life add up to what makes young men fancy them so much. 

It's natural in life that we go for the bigger, fancier, and more expensive things to feel good about ourselves. It's the same exhilarating feeling for a young man dating an older lady. 

18. You Are Open-Minded 

Hardly anything he does would take you by surprise, you've been there, and you've done almost all of it. You're more open to trying ‘new things’ with him because you know how everything is going to play out eventually. 

Even though you're not easily swayed, you would give into him a lot to make him feel good about himself. Not being judgemental allows him to express himself to you freely there, he can tell you all his ideas, even the ones you find silly. 

19. You Are In Control 

In a relationship like this, the older woman is mostly in control. He just has to relax and be taken care of as you plan the dinners, trips, games, and other things you both do together. Older women don’t mind buying their men expensive things every now and then or treating them to a fancy restaurant. 

There’s no wonder why younger men prefer older women that naturally want to take care of them. In a relationship with a woman within his age range or younger, he's going to be the one setting everything up and doing most of the spoiling. Younger men like the control that older women have. 

20. Children

Most older women already have children of their own. It's hardly a bone of contention with them, mostly because they want to live the rest of their lives enjoying themselves. Some young men don't want to raise a child - it's a much too serious responsibility for them to handle.

It allows them to concentrate on each other without a child in the picture. It sounds like a selfish decision, but it's better than mistreating another human being because you aren’t ready. 

21. Conversationalists


Older women are excellent listeners and are patient people as well. Their experiences give them a deeper understanding of life and everyone around them. They know a lot and are excellent teachers. 

As the saying goes, ‘the older the wiser’. In other words, it’s easier to have an enjoyable, intelligent conversation with an older lady. A young woman still has a lot of learning to do.

22. Emotional Maturity 

Older women are emotionally mature, they hardly overreact and know just how to handle their emotions and that of their partner. This is as a result of their experiences in life. They know just how to settle an issue if it arises and are hardly ever confused about anything. This trait makes you very attractive to a younger man; most women his age are emotionally unstable. 

23. Refined Taste

Older women have a refined taste that is peculiar to them. They're not intrigued by trends but by their own choices. Some men are just attracted to this difference, guys like the thrill of being with someone that isn’t the same with everyone else. They don’t mind the age difference, if you have something new to offer, they are game. 


How do you tell if a younger man likes you? 

If a younger man likes you, he's going to want to be around you most of the time. You can also tell by how affectionate he becomes and from his body language. He would try to be very helpful and ask you a lot of questions about your interests and experience. Physical touch is also one of the ways a younger man expresses his affection towards an older woman.

How do you get a younger guy to fall in love with you? 

Even though men naturally have a soft spot for their mothers, don't try to be that if you want him to fall in love with you. Keep yourself in control of your experiences and mental stability, they like women who know who they are and what they want. Tease him; these men love challenges, especially sexually. Go easy on the makeup, dress up classy, and be there when he needs you. Everything else comes easy when he gets a little dependent on you. 

What is it called when a man likes a younger woman? 

A man who has the hots for a woman younger than him is called a manther, the male version of a cougar. It's not a widely used name, as you can already tell—lots of people casually call them male-cougars. An older man who likes a younger woman tends to raise fewer brows than an older woman who wants a young man. 

How do you know if a guy finds you beautiful? 

He will tell you, that's the most straightforward way to know what he thinks about your looks. If he finds you beautiful, you can tell by the way he looks at you even when you're both alone. A guy would always want to show off a lady he thinks is beautiful, he’ll take her everywhere with him, take pictures of her and even display public affection for her. 

How does a man act when he's falling in love? 

They are body language and psychological signs to know if a man is falling in love with you. Some of the signs are; the way he looks at you, physical touch, he will strive to be around you and would want to talk to you all the time. You can feel the energy of his love around you when you pay close attention to his actions and inactions. A man like this is never ashamed or hardly afraid to tell you how he feels. 

In Conclusion 

Now you know what it is that makes younger guys attracted to older women. Don't act so surprised when one of them comes around you again; I'm sure this article has taught you to handle it better. I would love to know your thoughts in the comment section below, and please share this article with your friends. 

Do you hate it how everything seems to always revolve round him while you just seem to be an afterthought sometimes?
We hear this all the time from women that contact us asking for help with their relationship.

It almost makes you wonder whether he actually likes you or whether he's just stringing you along.

Why don't you take this quick free quiz to see if he actually likes you!

April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.