According to Psychology Today, a narcissist is a personality disorder that is characterized by a lack of empathy, a grandiose sense of self-importance, a belief that the person is deserving of special treatment, and a need for excessive admiration.
In other words, a narcissist is a person who is full of themselves; usually, he or she thinks they are the best thing on Earth!
Were you previously dating a narcissist? Did a narcissist break up with you? What happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you? More importantly, what should you be doing now that you are single again?
In this article, we will look more closely at these topics, specifically, trying to determine what happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you. We’ll look at the different possibilities of what a narcissist may do once things are over.
What is a narcissist? Were you really dating one, or was he just a jerk? Let’s look at this subject a little closer. According to the Mayo Clinic, narcissists take advantage of other people so that they can get what they want out of life. They are master manipulators, behaving in arrogant and selfish ways, often coming across as boastful, conceited, and very pretentious.
Does that sound like your ex? Did he have a sense of entitlement and an exaggerated sense of self-importance? Was he preoccupied with getting the best out of life - the best car, the best house, and/or the best furniture? Did he constantly need validation? Those are just some of the symptoms of narcissism; there are more, but if you were with one, you probably know the signs.
You may be wondering why he dumped you. It sucks; I know. I’ve been there a million times before. No one enjoys being rejected. After all, when you enter a long-term relationship, you expect things to work out; you may even have expected it to turn into a more serious relationship, like marriage. So, why did he have to go and ruin the relationship?
He could have started to have real feelings for you, which made him think that he’s gone soft. For someone with narcissism, feeling insecure just comes with the territory. In fact, that’s probably why he lashed out at you during all those times when he was overly critical or even just plain mean. Narcissists tend to get angry when things don’t go their way.
There’s also the possibility that he felt like his character/ego was under attack because he felt so close to you; this is rare, but it happens. Another possibility is that he found someone new, someone, he felt that met his needs more than you did; don’t think that it’s your fault if that’s what happened. He requires a lot of attention - so much that any woman can’t fulfill his needs.
If he thinks you are over him and no longer want him, he’s probably pretty mad. This anger may cause him to do something drastic, like deleting your phone number from his phone and blocking you on social media. This may be his way of “getting back at you” for not groveling at his feet, begging him to get back together.
He’ll probably need someone else to fulfill his needs right away. Narcissists are known for taking advantage of others to get what they want. If he can’t get what he wants from you, he’ll find another person. If this happens, don’t feel bad. In fact, you should feel relieved that you dodged a bullet by getting out of that relationship.
Narcissists are notorious for playing mind games inside and outside of any relationships they have. So, how do they manipulate other people? First, he may reach out to you, claiming he has changed and is no longer the jerk that he was. He may even claim that he misses you, loves you, and wants you back. Be very careful here.
Usually, when this happens, he’s faking his feelings. Don’t get me wrong; he may believe what he’s saying, but remember, people generally do not change. He’ll treat you now the same way he did when you were in the relationship. He may also be trying to trap you by acting this way and saying these things. It’s his way of turning the tables and winning.
The scary thing is that it’s hard to tell the difference between faking feelings and trapping you, but either way, he’s trying to manipulate you into doing what he wants. Be very careful if your narcissist ex claims to have changed, and don’t expect the relationship to be any different if you decide to get back together with him. The best idea is to move on.
There’s a great possibility that if you ignore the narcissist that dumped you he’ll feel like his self-esteem has been crushed because he expects you to be hurt; he thinks you will be harassing him with a million text messages, begging him to take you back. The important thing is how he responds to these feelings because he may be pretty mad.
In fact, he may turn the tables and start stalking you! He may follow you on social media, studying everything you say, post, and do. It’s important that you stay strong, though. Sure, it’s nice to get attention when you are feeling down after a big breakup but getting attention from your ex is not usually the best strategy for getting over him.
Watch out for mysterious friend requests following a breakup. He may try to befriend you on social media using a fake account. I had an ex once who did this on Facebook and on email. He would just create new accounts and say “just the right things” to make me respond back when really I should have just ignored him to keep him out of my life.
One thing you can expect a narcissist to do after ignoring him is to be very upset. It’s best to continue to have no contact, but it doesn’t guarantee he will stay away and move on with his life. Instead, he may get very angry and even throw hurtful insults at you. In this case, it’s really best to block his number and accounts on social media.
Avoid him at all costs if he becomes nasty because you don’t need that. You don’t need someone to cut you down and hurt you, and being with a narcissist is a recipe for disaster. That personality disorder expects things that a normal person just can’t deliver - constant attention and validation that will never actually be enough.
It’s possible that he will feel hurt and betrayed by your actions. He may want to know what you are up to and why you aren’t calling him, trying to get back together. Instead, you are ignoring him, and being the narcissist that he is, he feels like he should have your complete attention and love. He wants you to grovel, showing vulnerability.
There’s a very real possibility that your ex will get so angry that he begins threatening you. He may say he will tell all your secrets, spread rumors about you, or even share naughty pictures of you to other people online. If he follows through on these things, just know that getting back together with him won’t make anything better.
If he goes so far as to threaten to hurt you physically or if he does hurt you physically (or in some cases emotionally or mentally), seek help immediately. You may need to get a restraining order or involve the police. Keep yourself safe and if no contact isn’t working and you are fearing for your life, be sure to get the help of a professional.
The best thing you can do after a nasty breakup with a narcissist is to just continue to ignore him. Steer clear of him by avoiding the places he goes, getting your stuff back (if significant enough), blocking him on social media, and not responding to his messages, emails, or texts. It may be easiest to just delete his phone number, so you aren’t tempted to call or text him.
If your ex does try to manipulate you, don’t fall into his trap. Watch out for the signs that he is playing mind games with you. Try to remember what the relationship was really like. If he was a narcissist, the relationship was probably a toxic one. Just stand your ground and remember that you can be independent. You don’t need to give in to his demands anymore.
Just stay calm and remember that this feeling is temporary and what you are going through is not your fault. If you haven’t found the right person to talk about this with, you may want to see a therapist. He or she can help you determine why you were with such a damaged individual, so you don’t make the mistake again in the future. Remember that you deserve better!
If you are feeling upset because you think your narcissist ex has moved on, you shouldn’t be. Usually, when an ex is finished with you, especially if he was a narcissist, he moves on because he needs to get his many needs met by someone else - anyone else. Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance; they think they deserve “special treatment.”
Remember that a narcissist believes he is superior and expects special favors from other people. If he didn’t think that you were meeting all his ridiculous needs, he may just ignore you so that he can freely move on and forget about you. You shouldn’t take this to heart, because he’ll treat the next girl the same way he treated you. She’s just another one of his victims.
What happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you is he or she feels angry and insecure. They will be wondering why you aren’t harassing them, begging for them to take you back; they are wondering what you are doing and why you aren’t at their feet.
The narcissist may try to manipulate you by acting super sweet, saying he or she has changed, and telling you they’ve changed, which rarely happens. There’s also a possibility that he or she will ignore you in return and look for someone else to fulfill his or her unrealistic needs.
When you ignore a narcissist, there’s a possibility that their feelings are hurt. After all, they were expecting you to just beg for them back, harassing them until they finally gave in. Their feelings may include pain, but usually, just anger is involved because they lack self-esteem.
When a narcissist is ignored, especially after giving you lots of attention, they probably feel hurt, but mostly they feel upset. He or she may feel insecure since they were expecting you to respond to them, admitting you were wrong even if you were not. It’s all a manipulation.
Usually, giving them no contact will make them go crazy because they expect you to contact them, trying to get back together. He or she probably thinks you will not move on with your life quickly, but instead, you will excitedly wait for him or her to come around.
Being with a narcissist is never a great idea; the person won’t treat you fairly. What is your opinion on the subject? In your opinion, what happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you? Please share this post, and leave a comment below! I’d love to hear from you.