While dealing with the rollercoaster of life without your ex, you’ve probably thought about the things to say when, or if, you finally get back together.
If you are still in love with your ex, you probably want to get back with him, regardless of what happened. While harboring the thoughts on how to get your ex back, what about the things to say to your ex when you two finally meet?
This breakup period is a delicate time, and everything you say to your ex could either make or mar the relationship further.
Are you meeting up with him soon, or having a phone conversation after days or months of the no-contact rule? Here are 51 things to say to your ex that you still love.
Instead of starting off the conversation with something about yourself and your own feelings, you could direct the conversation towards something outside yourself. Perhaps, this is even what caused the break-up in the first place.
Saying something that reminds him of some happy memories you once shared would be great. This would paint a happy picture in his mind and make him have good feelings when he thinks of you.
Keep the conversation light. Don't be the ex-girlfriend that will jump straight into the problems you both faced when you were together. Try to make small talk, talk about light topics or recent happenings in your country, or about drastic changes in the weather.
You want to be the ex-girlfriend that isn’t so focused on what’s happening with you. instead, your ex about his life and his recent activities. What has happened since you guys split and what he has been up to lately?
Slip into the conversation that you’re faring quite well, even after the split. Don’t make statements that make you seem miserable without your ex or like your life was on pause since you both broke up.
Keep things on a light and positive note, there should be no bad vibes. No one wants to meet up to talk about sad events. Try to keep the conversation positive; stick to making happy and high-string statements.
Let your ex know that you still think of him from time to time, tell him the things that remind you of him.
Even though you're now his ex-girlfriend, say encouraging statements, like, “I always knew could do it”.
Adding a little sugar to the conversation wouldn’t hurt; on the contrary, it could make him a bit more engaged. You could make statements like, “So, how empty is your life without me?” and then wink.
Also make very neutral statements, things that won’t bring back the bitter taste of the breakup. You don’t want to be the ex-girlfriend that keeps dwelling on the gory past.
Make statements that will indirectly show him that you’re over the hurt and ugliness of the breakup. Yes, you still love him but don’t highlight that so you don’t seem needy.
This especially applies if you were the one in the wrong, apologising at some point could really make his day. Hopefully, you get one from him in return.
Make statements that show him that you’ve grown and changed for the better. Be the ex-girlfriend that will take the necessary steps to self-improvement, and let your ex know that as well.
You could also thank him, there must be one or two things he must have done right when you both were together. A simple statement like, “Thank you so much for not being an unfaithful partner, you spared me so much embarrassment”.
Show him that you’re a more grateful person now. Just saying thank you doesn't make you a grateful person, being appreciative of the things and people around you does.
Acknowledge your ex, tell him about the changes you’ve noticed in him. Let him know that you see him, that you've noticed how well he has handled a few things, and how mature he has become.
It's hard for most people to accept when things are over, especially the women since we tend to get more emotionally attached. A simple, “It’s okay, I understand” would do.
You could lightly clear the air about a disagreement you had with your ex or some misunderstandings you both may have had during the course of the relationship.
It won’t hurt to take him down memory lane. Discussing the better days always helps to lighten up the mood, plus, it could be an excellent way to rekindle the love.
Make sure to throw in some humor while you’re at it, perhaps even an inside joke you both had. You’d definitely be killing two birds with one stone, you’d crack him up and also remind him of the love connection you share.
Say something friendly, most people think that saying something mean and vengeful will give them the closure or revenge they crave, this is actually the opposite. In romantic relationships, it’s better not to play the bitter ex-girlfriend if you hope to get back with your ex.
Tell him how much you love his confidence, and that he’s one person you know will really make an impact in life.
Statements like, “You can count on me to be here whenever you need me ” would go a long way to show him that you’ve got his back. Whether or not you both are currently together, it won’t hurt to have each other's backs.
Sometimes, it wouldn’t hurt if you just said nothing, at least just for a while. Silence sometimes speaks even louder than words, it could show your ex that you’re bigger and better. Plus, it gives him the opportunity to break the ice.
There’s a possibility that he may be missing you just as much as you’re missing home. If he’s giving you these signs, you could take a chance and be straight with him.
Throw him some compliments, of course being careful not to sound like you're overcompensating.
Be supportive of his recent accomplishments especially if he’s brave enough to share them with you. “I always knew you could do it” would be one straight to the point and assuring thing to say.
You could show him you still care even though you guys aren’t together anymore, there’s nothing wrong with that. You could ask, “I hope you’ve been alright lately, is there anything I could help with?”
If you both are in that mood, you could make some slightly flirty statements, lighten up the mood a bit and add that space to the conversation. “Want to hear a secret? I’m almost not fully dressed... ” It’s bound to make him laugh and keep the conversation flowing.
Memory lane is a lovely place to travel to from time to time, you can take him back to your first few dates. The awareness, the funny and embarrassing moments, and how you both managed to get over it.
You could also remind him of some things or a thing he did that completely surprised you. For example, an unbelievable birthday surprise, a mind-blowing Valentine’s Day gift, or an anniversary trip. This could stir up some old feelings.
You could remind him of a funny experience you both had, it could be an embarrassing moment or a really good prank. Apart from making him laugh, it’ll take his mind back to the fun days.
Whatever you do, don’t say anything you don’t mean. Stick to statements that you actually mean. Anything too cheesy or desperate should not be said.
Just like keeping it real, only make statements that you genuinely mean. Stick to the words you are sure to come from your heart. If you aren’t sure about how you feel then say nothing at all.
Be mysterious, don’t give it all away. Not everything needs to be said, keep the conversation light and neutral. Pouring out all your feelings to him is way too much information.
While hearing about his recent accomplishments and generally his life so far, you could also tell him what has been happening in your life.
In case he needs a little nudge to share, find out if there are any new developments and perhaps even encourage him to make some fitness or self-improvement moves.
You don’t only have to remember the funny or happy moments, you could also remember some hard situations you both were able to scale through together. Your worst fights could count, narrating things in a comic way could give you both a good laugh.
Reminding him how you both sorted issues out after arguments or misunderstandings could remind you both that you can actually make it through hard situations together.
You could tell him what you learned from him during and even after the breakup. Statements like, “I really learned how to be patient because of our relationship” or “You really taught me to love genuinely”.
Remind him that whether you both get back together or not, he will always have a special spot in your heart and no one can replace that.
You could slip in teasing statements like, “If we were still an item, we’d have crashed Kate and Steve’s party together this year”.
Making him know that you still think he’s a catch could help boost his self-esteem and heal any damage to his confidence that was caused by the breakup.
No matter what may have transpired between the both of you, you must have learned a few things from each other. It won’t hurt to let him know this.
Sooner or later, if you both decide you’d still like to be a part of each other's lives, maybe meet in person. Letting him know that you’re looking forward to that time wouldn’t hurt.
If you feel there’s a chance both of you will mend the relationship, let him know you’re ready and happy to do so with him.
If there are minimal chances of getting your ex back, then apart from the pleasantries, that’s one of the things to say.
You’re trying to get back your ex, and honestly, this is the time to pull out the big guns. There are things you can say that will have his heart dancing to your tune. Maybe try reminding him of your first time together (in bed, of course) and what he did that made you never want to leave him.
Relationships are hard, and as his ex-girlfriend, you don’t want to crush the chances of getting back together with him. Even though it’s a compliment on his new haircut, tell your ex how much you love it.
Even though you’re not back together yet, let him know that you are making progress. If he encouraged you to do something bold like start a blog, now is the time to tell him if you have done so.
Keep it simple by telling him you’re doing great, but could be better. Go on to mention a few new developments in your life. Remember to keep the conversation light, it’s not your pity party.
If you still love him, then it’s best to breathe and think of a respectful reply before hitting the send button. Try not to swear or sound mean even though you feel bitter, and focus on the positives of the relationship.
Don’t outrightly tell him you want him back, that should come as naturally as possible. Also, don’t try to put him down just to satisfy yourself.
If your ex still loves you, they’ll keep in contact with you even after the breakup, that’s one of the most significant signs.
Use the no-contact rule, don’t call or text him for a while after the breakup. Then put an effort into living your best life; look good, improve yourself, and achieve your goals. Like they say, the best revenge is good success.
Did you enjoy reading through this list? You can use the tips above to speak to your ex after the breakup and try not to make it awkward. Good luck. Don’t forget to leave a comment below and share this article as well.