One of the 6 basic human needs is connectedness, and we receive our greatest connection from our intimate relationships. We need this connection to feel a part of the world.
Without this type of connection, we feel isolated. The best way to improve this type of connection through effective communication. Also, one of the key elements in a healthy, happy relationship is communication, so it’s a good idea to understand what men want to hear from their women.
What guys want to hear is directly tied to their needs. Specifically, what guys like is to feel good by meeting their needs of certainty, significance, variety, love and connection, growth, and contribution.
Men want to know that they are wanted, needed, and loved by you. Guys want to feel like what they do, say, and feel matters. They need validation and love from you. Don’t worry! We’re going to go over some of the best ways to win the heart of your man.
In this article, we go over the top things guys like to hear from their girlfriends. This way, you will be able to tell your man exactly what he is hoping you’ll say!
One of the best ways to boost the self-esteem of your lover is to pay him compliments. According to Psychology Today, compliments give you a great chance at improving the mood of your loved one, because they make him feel good; in fact, there’s a high probability that he will be turned on when you pump up his ego. If you’re horny, this is very good news, right?
According to Tony Robbins, two of the basic human needs are certainty and significance. In other words, men need to know they have made a difference and that they matter. By telling them the reasons you care about them, you are fulfilling their needs. Upon meeting their needs, you will positively influence their feelings, thoughts, actions, and behaviors.
It’s not difficult to compliment a man; just tell him what you like the most about him. What about his looks turns you on and makes other girls drool? What sort of things does he do that makes your day fantastic? In what ways does he act that lets you know he’s truly in love with you? What are your favorite things about him? What made you fall head over heels for him?
You can express your feelings for your man in many ways. Describe your feelings and how he has made a difference in your life. For example, you may want to say, “I love how patient you are with me. You have helped me overcome the biggest obstacles in my life.” Say things that let him know he’s impacted your life and made you feel good about yourself.
Often, statements that begin with, “When you” can explain to your man the actions he takes that make you happy. Then, for the second half of the statement say, “I feel” to express the ways your feelings are impacted by the things he does. Tell him the reasons you really want to be with him, the things he’s done to win your heart over, and the feelings he’s made you experience.
Part of expressing your feelings involves telling him what’s going on with you. Admitting when you are wrong, telling him how much you miss him, or just reminding him that you are thinking of him by saying, “I love you,” will boost his happiness and strengthen your relationship. It doesn’t take much effort to simply text your boyfriend or husband one of these texts a day.
Other basic human needs are growth and contribution. One of the ways that people get these needs is through encouragement from their partners. Encourage your man by being his number one fan! Explain to him that you are proud of what he has done. Tell him you really think he has accomplished something impressive, you care about him, and you believe in him.
If you show your lover that you believe in him and think he is doing the right thing, the two of you will probably be closer emotionally because you are on his side. Be his cheerleader, the person who is always on his team, regardless of the circumstances. For example, if he’s in a heated argument with his friends or family, try to take his side.
Don’t get me wrong; you can disagree with him, especially if he’s dead wrong, but don’t belittle him. Instead, try to see his point of view. Basically, you need to respect his opinion even if you disagree with him. For example, you could say something like, “I totally see what you mean, but I did want to tell you that I liked the movie despite that scene.”
Showing you are grateful for what your partner does is a crucial element of a healthy relationship. According to one study done by Business Insider, 48% of people from failed relationships said their partnership failed because of a lack of appreciation from their partners. In my opinion, that’s an overwhelming response! It’s clear we need to say “thanks” more!
Clearly, partners are not experiencing this enough. It’s not hard to come up with ways to tell your partner that you really appreciate the things he’s done, but I think the problem is remembering to do it on a regular basis. You may want to tell him you are grateful for everything he does for you, but you forget to bring it up often enough. So, how can you best remember to do this?
One way that I think is pretty effective is to just keep a checklist with you in your planner or diary. Make sure you have on your list to say, “thank you” for something he has done recently. Explain how the things he’s done have impacted your day. Something as simple as this would work, “I know you were in a hurry this morning, but I truly appreciate you making me coffee.”
Guys want to feel like they matter; they want to feel safe with their girlfriends, knowing they’re loved and accepted. One thing you could say to your man is how you feel like the luckiest girl in the world, just being with him. He will appreciate your honesty and adoration.
Men love spending time with the person they are most intimate with. Some men enjoy doing outdoor events while others are content staying home with a good book. Men love to share their interests, so learn to love what he is passionate about or find something you can do together!
Your man needs to know you love him for being himself. Be a supportive partner, understanding and accepting him for who he is. Let him know that you care about him - just as he is. Tell him you love him for who he is and think he’s a true hero!
Men don’t usually appreciate it when women think they know it all. Really, they don’t want to put up with someone who is high maintenance. They’d rather be with a girl who loves herself and can be an independent woman. Be a challenge, a mystery, and play hard to get.
Every man is different, but generally, men prefer women who take care of themselves. This means physically, mentally, and emotionally. Pretty yourself up for your boyfriend or husband; show you care about the way you look. Also, be healthy emotionally; make sure you take care of yourself in every way.
Men need to be appreciated, loved, and encouraged. Remember, meeting the needs of your man will help him to feel confident, secure, and grounded in your relationship.
How do you convey these feelings to your man? Share your experience in the comments section below. I’d love to hear from you.
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