11 Never-Fail Signs of a Con Artist in a Relationship

Last updated on July 4, 2022 by April Maccario

Because financial and identity information is so personal and confidential, it’s important to know the signs of a con artist in a relationship. You should learn to guard your information closely so that this doesn’t happen to you!

Con artists are often very smooth operators and are often able to get personal details without raising suspicion. They are able to charm their way into people’s lives without them even realizing what happened until it’s too late!

This is a scary thing to have to go through if you have been a victim of something like this! Did you know that only 7% of victims report being scammed or conned out of money? If you suspect you have been a victim of a con, be sure you contact the police, so they can prevent it from happening to another individual. 

You may be able to get over it with a good bubble bath, but what about the next girl who is in your shoes? You wouldn’t want someone to fall prey to what happened to you, would you?

This post will look at the top signs for someone like this so that you know what to watch out for!

Top Signs of Con Artists (What to Watch Out For)

1. You have let him have access to your finances

Don’t beat yourself up too much on this one. Many people who are experts at conning are able to get away with this very easily. He may have convinced you he can help you manage your money better or invest it on your behalf. 

If you haven’t yet given him access to your finances, don’t do this until you are ready for marriage or commitment!

2. Things are moving really fast

This smooth talker has completely swept you off your feet; you feel like things are going too fast for you, but you can’t help it. He’s already talking about marriage, kids, love, and a fairy tale happy ending. How can you resist this charm?

I understand! I’ve been there! It’s next to impossible to not feel the intimacy, the spark between the two of you! You feel like you have instantly connected as soulmates would. It’s important that you watch the boundaries of other healthy couples to see how you should be acting - if you are unsure about the timing of everything. 

3. He asks you a lot of personal questions

A guy who questions you on your birthday, mother’s maiden name, and first pet’s name has to raise a couple of red flags for you. It’s one thing if you have been dating a while, but on a first date, it’s unusual to share the security questions your bank asks you!

If you feel uneasy with the number of questions that he asks you or just feel weird without understanding why it may be a sign that things are moving too fast and he’s up to something. Trust yourself if you get that uneasy feeling. There’s a reason for it!

4. He keeps you away from your support group

People who have a mission to take your money or identity often hope you will not make contact with your friends and family because there’s a good chance they will see right through their cons or scams and warn you to steer clear! That doesn’t work in their favor, so probably they have come up with excuses for you not to be in contact with your fans.

For example, maybe your mother is a very cautious person and meets your new boyfriend. She may initially disapprove of him because of the way he looks or acts in front of her, but as she gets better acquainted with him, she realizes that he is acting unfavorably towards you. At this point, she would ask you to stop dating him. 

5. You have been convinced to loan or give him money

you have been convinced to loan or give him money

People who scam others out of money often do so with a beautiful story that you cannot resist. Perhaps his niece is going to need an operation that he cannot afford, and she only needs a small amount to become healthy again. In this story, you are able to be the savior to the little girl by sacrificing a small amount of money!

He hasn’t forced you to give anything up and hasn’t stolen anything from you - except maybe your pride when you later learn it was all a big fat lie. In cases like this, you have freely given something away. This doesn’t make you a sucker or anything; you just have a big heart, and he’s probably told that story so many times, he believes it’s true!

6. His excuses or stories do not add up

Maybe you ask him about the story he told you or ask where he was the other night. His excuses and stories do not make any logical sense, but you try to give him the benefit of the doubt because you have fallen hard for him. I’ve been there! I once had a boyfriend make up the most ridiculous stories, and I trusted him

I don’t feel stupid (and you shouldn’t either), but I wish I had known then what I do now because I wouldn’t waste my time with a person like that. Try to listen to what his excuses are before believing in him.

7. He vanishes mysteriously

The disappearing act is all too popular with con artists. Once they have achieved their objectives, there’s no reason for them to stick around, so off they go. You’ve tried his cell, email, social media, etc. with no luck. It’s how the con works, unfortunately, so make sure you keep your head up when you’re dealing with a mastermind because it hurts!

8. Your gut instinct tells you something is up

Sometimes, you just have to trust your gut. If you feel like something weird is going on, you are probably on the right track. You don’t have to be suspicious with everyone, but make sure you are logical when it comes to the facts.

9. You feel like you are doing all of the work

No one wants to be in a one-sided partnership. Make sure he is pulling his weight. If you feel like you are doing all the work in life, things definitely aren’t working out in your favor. Make him want you more by backing off a little. People who are skilled in cons will make an effort in life if they want to get close to you. 

10. He gives you a lot of attention

he gives you a lot of attention

People who scam others understand how to charm in just the right way. He is probably romancing you with flowers, cards, and lots of gifts, which makes you trust him even more. Of course, if his intentions are not honorable, he may be doing those things to butter you up for when he does his disappearing act after getting what he wants.

11. He acts very evasively

Have you tried asking him plenty of questions, but he always makes up an excuse as to why he can’t answer them? That’s fishy, especially if he’s asked you the same questions, and you have freely answered him. If he gives you plenty of excuses or tells you strange answers that don’t make sense, he may be up to no good, so keep your guard up.


How do you spot a con artist in a relationship?

Many con artists are skilled in deception and can easily win you over without you realizing they were conning you. One thing to watch out for is if he is curious about your personal information or finances, especially if it’s the beginning of a partnership. Be cautious with new guys!

How can you tell if someone is a con artist?

Usually, a con artist will con you out of money or personal details to steal your identity. Some come after you for revenge from a past experience or for a friend. Watch your finances and personal information to make sure he doesn’t walk away with everything.

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How do you beat a con artist at his own game?

Keep your guard up by not allowing someone else the chance to gain access to personal details about your identity or financial information that would let them steal from you. Be cautious when sharing things like your mother’s maiden name or bank account number.

How do you stop a con artist?

If you suspect that you have been dating a con artist, the best thing you can do is to close your bank accounts and cancel any credit cards he had access to. Also, run a credit check to make sure he didn’t open new accounts under your social security number!

How do you tell if someone is scamming you?

People who scam others may ask to contact your bank account on your behalf or ask to borrow money when you know they don’t need it. Also, many con artists try to enter your life too quickly, asking you for personal details that are inappropriate. Keep a safe wall up.

To Sum Things Up…

What signs of a con artist do you know or stories you could tell my readers about? Did you get scammed by a con artist? I want your input on these signs to watch for! 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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