Second Date Ideas (201+ Amazing Second Date Tips And Ideas)
by April Maccario
As you already know, it takes a lot of preparation and effort to give a good impression on your first date. As a matter of fact, people are more paranoid, nervous, and tensed before going on a date with someone for the first time.
However, we usually do not hear people get so worked up, or nervous about the second date; perhaps, the second date is not usually important as the first? Or could it be that people just do not know how critical the second date is?
Let’s face the fact, second dates can be as anxiety-inducing as first dates. The misconception usually comes from the mare fact that you have scaled through the first stage; you like him, and he likes you, he was laughing at your jokes, and you were laughing at his, so why put effort into coming up with second date ideas?
After all, what’s the worst that could happen on a second date? A lot could happen! In this article, I will provide some tips and possible date ideas to get the second date with that special someone off to a good start. The second date is one opportunity to get to know this person well, so we still have to get it right.
A great way to spark up a conversation and enjoy a scenic view is to go to the beach! That’s what makes it an excellent second date idea. So, you don’t go empty-handed, why not mix things up a little and have a picnic on the beach? Getting ideas of dates doesn’t have to be so far-fetched, just stick to the simple things that can still be greatly enjoyed.
Second date ideas for someone on a budget don’t have to be boring, in fact, it’s a great opportunity to think outside the box and connect with one another in a less fancy or sophisticated environment. So, why not get to know each other while playing a couple of board games and munching on some crackers and flavored crisps?
If you date is into this, ditch the fancy restaurants and regular places and go ice skating, second date ideas like this are rarely thought of, but it’s a great way to talk and bond over a nice sport. You don’t even have to be a pro, whether or not you have skated before, it’d be a nice time to learn, be goofy, and simply enjoy a nice time.
Second date ideas like this one is an excellent choice for a date who loves arts and creativity. The ideas your date comes up with may suggest the things he enjoys most, but if the person hasn’t decided yet, then you can suggest going for an immersive art exhibition, activity, or class.
Whether or not you think this person is ‘the one,’ you want to have a good time, by all means, so thinking of second date ideas that include both of you trying something new would be interesting. Have fun attending a shamanic drumming circle, this involves people who connect with their culture and inner spirituality through rhythmic drumming.
As one of many interesting second date ideas, you could go horseriding, maybe take lessons if you have never ridden before.
Instead of opting for mini-golf, which still falls into the category of great second date ideas, head to a shooting range instead. It’s a fun and invigorating way to have a good time trying to hit targets, then having a fun conversation about the experience on the ride back home.
Second date ideas don’t always have to be grounded, but you’re still trying to blow away this lovely person you just started dating, wait for it… go on a hot air balloon. If your dates idea of a fun time is almost limitless, and no one has the fear of heights, then go for it.
Thinking about second date ideas for Winter? A good Idea for dates during this extra cold season could be as simple as looking for a place to go sledding. It costs nothing, and it’s a lovely way to have fun and let your guard down.
Second date ideas during the Winter can also include visiting the zoo, it’s rumored to be more empty, and many animals are more active during this season.
One of the best second date ideas during the winter would have to involve making something warm, and hopefully cozying up together at the end of the day. Some ideas for a warm meal include making s’mores, marshmallows, and of course, a warm beverage both of you can sip on.
Taking your date on a ride to a distant destination would also give both of you the opportunity to talk, take in the scenery by the roadside, and find something or things you both love about traveling.
Go skating, it’s something both of you would have fun doing together
Visit your local botanical garden
Attend a gallery opening
Go wine tasting
Visit a carnival
Check out a local ghost tour
Find an outdoor public pool that's open late
Go to the aquarium, second date ideas like this are calmer and guarantee a great day watching marine life
Explore the local farmers market
Play trivia night at a bar
Take the train, it’s a great opportunity to get your hands off the wheels for a while
Kick back at an arcade
Stage your own film festival
See a budget basketball or baseball game
Have your palms read
Make ice cream together
Enjoy an adventurous meal
Get lost in a maze
Booze it up at a Biergarten
Attend a poetry reading
Cook dinner together
See a stand-up comedy show
Explore a new area
Volunteer to walk a dog
Plan a board game night
Hit the slopes
Take a long scenic walk
Attend a food festival, date ideas like this won’t just help you connect, it will fill your tummies too
Sign up for a cooking class together, it’s a great idea when looking for activities to do together
Visit a sculpture garden or public park
Take a hike together, having a great time supporting each other and getting that work-out on
Visit a pumpkin patch
Explore a Corn Maze, have a great time running around and ‘finding’ yourselves
Browse through a Flea market
Sail the seas on a fun boat cruise, great second date ideas like these are better in the summer
Visit an amusement park, second date ideas like this are great when both of you want to un-loose and bond more
Stargaze at a planetarium
Host a party together
Go for a massage, it’s a great way to relax and enjoy a good rub
Take a chocolate tour, it’s a great way of bonding
Have a fun day sipping coffee and doing crosswords
Get Your Sexy Back with a Burlesque Show
Go for a Jazz Show if you want to have a fun night dancing
Make a bucket list
Create your own pub crawl
Visit a nearby town, it’s a great way to explore the city while getting to know each other
Find a Bingo place and go play Bingo
Get a skateboard or longboard
Go paddleboarding, it’s a great way to connect with a naturally romantic setting
Read up on some photography tips and go on a photography date
Find a craft beer place and try a bunch of beers
Go rock climbing, it’s a great way to have fun while doing a physical activity together
Play a fun mystery game while at home
Have an indoor picnic it’s a great way to bond, eat, and laugh
Another fun way to do something nice together is by watching your favorite movies together
Hire an indoor chef, second date ideas shouldn’t always include you doing all the work
Cook each other’s favorite meals
Have a romantic couples massage, second date ideas like this help both of you relax
Second date ideas that include both of you playing charades could be fun as well
“Quiz” each other, it’s a great way to scratch each other’s brains
Do some body painting
Go glamping (in your backyard); this is similar to actual camping, only that you are in your backyard
Do some geocaching
Go zip lining
Do yoga together with a twist
Go to a VR café / arcade
Try metal detecting
Have a water gun/balloon fight
Visit a locals sports game
Rent a skateboard or longboard and give it a go
Play dress up
Play some board games or card games at a board game café or a gaming store (they usually have tables set up)
Play a sport or do an activity you are both horrible at or have never done
Get a compass and use it to find your way to a nice restaurant
Have a date night where you turn off the lights and late the candles are the only source of light, whilst you talk all night
Go for an adult kids party, whether you were invited or not, they might not notice you are party crashing
Create a new food night and get your favorite ingredients
Make a homemade pinata together
Go donate blood together
Antique shop creativity
Create a new type of dessert together
Go fossil hunting
Have a baking competition
Rent a classic car and ride to the countryside
Go berry picking to make a nice dessert later
Go on a mission impossible
Pretend to be super-rich for the day and fine dining at a Michelin star restaurant
Visit historical buildings
Get some clay and make pottery
Paint each other
Rent or buy an instrument and learn to play it together
Make a time capsule
Go to a hardware store or a craft store and pick something to make together
If you both play an MMORPG, an online multiplayer shooter, or some other online games
Brainstorm a new product or business
Find places that are supposedly haunted in your area and visit them at night
Buy a cheap drone and take turns flying it around and probably crashing it
Do a pub crawl
Go to one of those dinner theatre/murder mystery places.
Take a mini road trip to someplace not too far away.
See what events are happening at the local university or college
Find something touristy in your area that both of you have never done
How To Act On The Second Date
1. Don’t Go With A False Personality
It is very normal for people to adjust their behavior, sense of humor, manners, and way of talking when meeting people initially. As a matter of fact, dates are all about first impressions. This is why people dress smarter, look prettier, smell nicer, and act more kind.
All of these antics are simply to gain acceptance from your date. However, it is imperative to note that, these great attributes must still be maintained for the next few dates. One of the possible problems that might arise on a second date is when the good attributes that were displayed initially are no longer seen on the second date.
If you had a great sense of humor when he met you, or you had an amazing outfit, you should try to keep that momentum going.
2. Don’t Act Desperate
This may not sound like much of a problem, but in reality, a lot of ladies do not know how to keep it together when they start liking a guy. There is nothing wrong with feeling sparks on a first or second date, but it would be inappropriate to act desperate while on a date. It’s only a second date and you are already talking about moving into his place, coming to cook for him, or going through his phone.
3. Offer To Pay Up
The issue of who gets to pay for the date is a very critical issue which people usually underestimate. On most occasions, the man is usually more than happy to pay for the entire night; however, it is only modest of you to attempt to pay, especially on the second date.
This will portray you as an independent, decent, and modest lady. It would be inappropriate if you allowed the man to pay two times in a row without even attempting to foot the bill. It may not be the best impression you want this guy to have of you. It is advisable for ladies to make efforts to pay for meals on dates.
4. Keep Things Simple
It is important to keep things simple when going on any date, regardless of it being the second date. By keeping things simple, I mean, you should not act weird, do too much, or try to be too touchy. They are great date ideas for people who just want to have a good time, maybe something chill like mini-golf or a walk on the beach.
Going overboard will only make your date feel uncomfortable, and that’s not such a good thing. It is necessary that you respect his personal space, do not act weird, or be too touchy.
5. Do Not Be Too Comfortable
Usually, most people become relaxed and too comfortable that they forget that every date is important. Yes, you should have fun and get to know each other, but you don’t want to say one thing that is either insensitive or inappropriate.
It is important to keep your composure, and maintain your decorum. It’s only been a second date, and not marriage, do not get too comfortable; at least not yet.
Now we’re done with one important section, it’s time to explore some good second date ideas that will help you and your date get to know each other more.
Can you kiss on a first date?
Is it a great idea to kiss on the first date, well, there is really nothing wrong with giving your date a little kiss on the cheek after he drops you off. Additionally, there is still nothing wrong with sharing a passionate kiss with him after the date. However, only do what you’re comfortable with.
What should go between the first and second dates?
After the first date, if you guys still talk and text, then there may be a need for a second date. Usually, a couple of days is good enough from the first to the second date. Sometimes, it just depends on your schedule and his, however, it’s important that it does not take too long.
What to talk about on the second date?
On the second date, there usually should be a lot to talk about, it’s mostly a follow-up of what you talked about on the first date. You could also talk about your dreams and passions, family upbringing, their favorite things, and good memories; simply go with the flow.
What does a second date mean to a guy?
Usually, when a man asks for a second or third date, this means, he finds you interesting and enjoys your company. It does not necessarily mean that he is already thinking of marriage or having kids with you. Rather, he wants to get to know you more, It is important to remain calm, be you, and do not get too comfortable just yet.
How many dates before you sleep together?
A study by Groupon when asking adults how long they had to wait till they had sex, discovered that on average, eight dates were usually acceptable before sex. While the men usually want sex after the first or second date, women, on the other hand, took a little more time to consider getting that intimate on the first date.
The second date is just as important as the first date, things aren’t permanent yet, so choosing the next date idea can be challenging. Remember, it doesn’t always have to be fancy or cliche, opt for something simple like mini-golf or a picnic by the beach, but it should be more different and unique from the first date.
I really hope this article has addressed a lot of the issues you have been worrying about as regards to going on a second date. If you find this article helpful and want to share, please feel free to do so.
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