What Is Outercourse? And How To Enjoy It (8 Fun Ways)

Last updated on June 5, 2022 by April Maccario

Often, people find ways to have fun without having sexual intercourse. Did you know that you can still have sexual intimacy without penis-in-vagina (PIV) penetration? This type of connection is typically referred to as outercourse. 

You may be wondering, "What is outercourse?" This is an understandable question as outercourse is a relatively new term, though the concept is far from new. People have been using outercourse as a form of birth control since the beginning of time. It just wasn’t quite referred to as this term. So, what does it mean?

According to Healthline, outercourse is basically the act of having sex without intercourse. Outercourse means different things to different people. For some, it means having sex without vaginal penetration; for others, it means having no penetration of any kind. This includes anal sex, oral sex, blow jobs, handjobs, and even the use of sex toys. 

You may be thinking, “Why would anyone want to have outercourse?” Well, there are many reasons. In this article, we will take a look at that along with the ways you can have fun with outercourse. 

Why Have Outercourse?

Planned Parenthood explains that many people have outercourse because it allows them the opportunity to be sexually active without risking pregnancy because it protects sperm from reaching a woman’s eggs. In the article, Planned Parenthood explains many of the different ways you can have non-penetrative sex, something we will further explore next.

Some people enjoy sexual activity without penetration because it protects them against sexually transmitted infections. Sexually transmitted infections can occur when you do things other than intercourse, though. For example, oral sex and anal sex can still cause the spread of STDs. If the semen travels to the vagina, pregnancy can occur as well.

It’s a good idea to use protection if you plan to have anal sex or even sex without penetration. Rubbing together your body parts can spread infection, so be careful. Use protection if you participate in sexual activity with your partner because the outside of your body can still carry and spread sexually transmitted diseases. It’s better to be safe than sorry.

How Do You Have Outercourse?

Planned Parenthood also explains some of the ways you can have outercourse enjoyably. You can enjoy intimate kissing, massaging, mutual masturbation, sex toys, talking about your fantasies, oral sex, and anal sex. Some feel that permitting each other to have an orgasm is crossing some kind of line because they believe it robs you of your innocence and purity

However, for many people, the act of having outercourse can involve anything but penetrative sex. This means you can enjoy dry humping or even rubbing your body against your partner’s body naked, provided you don’t have actual penetrative sex. People who believe in this kind of outercourse say it’s okay to orgasm as long as the penis doesn’t enter the vagina.

For those who want to stay on the pure side of the line, things like talking about sex or doing things like holding hands are the best courses of action. Either way will help with birth control and the prevention of STDs. By not allowing the sperm to reach the egg, you are using birth control effectively. Of course, remember to protect yourself against STDs during sexual activity.

How Can I Have Fun With Outercourse?

1. Kissing


One way to stay busy and have fun with outercourse is to kiss each other. I remember this song that had this line I always thought was so cool. It said, "Give me an hour to kiss you". I have had moments like that in my life, taking hours just kissing. Ah, the fun of foreplay! 

I can even recall my first kiss on my mother’s porch. It was like a real kiss, a nice french kiss, and the boy even said later that he couldn’t believe that was my first kiss. It made me so proud that I had practiced on my hand ahead of time! Ha! Seriously, though, you can enjoy french kissing for long periods of time. 

2. Making out

If you want to take things a little bit further than kissing, you can always get hot and heavy; start making out with each other. Enjoy your bodies as you explore one another with your hands, and perhaps even your mouth. You can kiss each other all over; just be careful not to turn each other on too much if your intention is to stay pure.

If you aren’t careful with heavy petting and kissing, you can easily find yourself having sex when you were hoping to wait until marriage or a serious relationship comes along. Many people lose their virginity earlier than planned because they get too turned on with outercourse. Make sure you are doing only what you want with your partner.

3. Dry humping

Dry humping, if done effectively, can help prevent STDs and pregnancy. Plus, if you are trying to wait until marriage to have intercourse, dry humping can be a very fun way to enjoy each other’s bodies. This form of outercourse may involve heavy making out or sex without penetration. It’s very similar to sex but with your clothes on.

4. Mutual masturbation

This can be a great way to pleasure one another without having intercourse. If you show your partner that you can please them with your hands, you can experience a great sense of intimacy. With words, you can guide each other’s hands, telling one another what feels good and when they are going in the wrong direction. 

5. Sex toys

There are tons of toys out there for sex play. If you want to use sex toys while you perform outercourse, there are plenty of options for you to choose from. For example, you can purchase all kinds of vibrators that can help you climax. Use your imagination when it comes to using toys during sexual activity. The sky's the limit!

6. Massaging


Break out the massage oil, turn down the lights, and play soft, relaxing music. You can have a lot of fun playing "massage parlor". This form of outercourse is a great way to have an intimate connection without vaginal penetration. Instead, just enjoy making your lover relax and let their many worries melt away with the use of your hands.

You may even want to watch some YouTube videos on the different ways to give sensual massages. Consider lighting some candles or having dim light bulbs lit to set the atmosphere. You will charm your partner in no time with this ambiance. 

7. Oral sex

Most people agree that this is not losing their virginity, but to some, it still crosses the line of whether you are still pure or not. For those who do think this is an effective and fun way to have outercourse, there are many ways to do this.

The girl can give the guy a blow job, or the guy can eat the girl out. If you choose to do both at the same time, this is sometimes referred to as 69-ing. Again, oral sex can still cause the transmission of STDs, so use protection when doing this. Stay safe!

8. Anal sex

For some individuals, this act of sex is taking things too far. They think this is the same thing as losing their virginity. For others, this is still a form of outercourse and is a useful way to protect against pregnancy. Just remember to use protection because anal sex does not protect you against sexually transmitted diseases. 

To Sum Things Up…

It may not be as easy to have outercourse as it is to have intercourse, but there are many benefits and reasons why people do it. Plus, you can have a lot of fun doing outercourse. 

Do you enjoy having outercourse with your partner? What techniques work for you?

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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