Is He The One? (11+ Assuring Signs)

by April Maccario

Whether you have been dating someone for a while and you are wondering whether he is the one for you or whether you are wondering whether your long-term boyfriend is husband material, keep reading for signs to find out. 

There comes a point in every relationship where it is time to decide whether your partner is the person you want to settle down with.

Has the initial excitement of dating worn off? Well, you may be wondering whether this guy is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. If he’s not marriage material you likely want to find out so that you don’t need to waste any more time with him and you can begin to look for a guy who is. 

There are many signs and ways to find out whether someone has the potential to be the perfect husband for you or not. But it is important to find out before you commit your life to someone that you are perfectly compatible with each other and your relationship will be strong and long-lasting. Keep reading to find out what to look for in your man. 

Is He Really The One?

Whether he is the one for you or not it is important to find out either way, for otherwise, you may be wasting your time with this guy. If you believe in soulmates then you probably want to know if your boyfriend really is your soulmate. There are many different characteristics that a guy with the potential to be a good husband will have. 

This article will help you to tell if this is the guy that you should marry and commit the rest of your life to.

1. You share the same values with him

If you have spoken to your partner before and you know that you share the same opinions on the important things, then this is a sign that you are meant for each other. If you have not yet had a conversation with your boyfriend about the things that matter to you most, it may be time to speak to him about these things to determine if he really is the one for you. 

Talk to him about important things to you such as having a family and kids, spirituality, religion, self-care, and mental health, and see if his thoughts align with yours on these matters. If he shares the same or similar opinions and values as you then this is a really good sign in any relationship, as it is important that you are on the same page as each other. 

While you don’t have to agree on absolutely everything and it is important that you have different interests and opinions sometimes and are able to respect this, but if your opinions regarding your core values and beliefs differ hugely, then this may become an issue later on in your relationship. Consider how important it is to you that he shares these things with you. 

2. You want the same things in life

You want the same things in life

It is important that, overall, you and your partner want the same things out of life. Perhaps this means that you both want children in the future or at the same time that neither of you wants children. Maybe you have also already agreed that you will both share the responsibility of taking care of the kids, or that he will take paternity leave too. 

Perhaps you have had a conversation about where you want to live in the future and you both have the same dreams. If you both really want to live in the city or you both want to live in the countryside, this is a good sign. If you share the same dreams in life this is a sign that you are really compatible with each other and your relationship will be long-lasting.

It is important to have a conversation with him about such things, if you are not on the same page regarding your life goals then things might be less likely to work out. Have a conversation with him now about if he wants kids, if he wants to get married in the future or where he hopes to live and see if this matches what you want. 

3. You always prioritize each other 

If you both have busy lives, you are both committed to your career and your family is important to each of you, but you remember to prioritize each other no matter how busy you are. Consider if he makes you feel important even if you have been dating for a long time. If you have been together for a long time and he still makes you feel like this, he’s likely a good guy.

If he has had a busy day at work but you have asked him to attend an event with you that evening and he always makes sure that he is there on time to spend time with you, then this is a sign that you mean a lot to him and you are still one of each other’s priorities. If you always prioritize each other then he may well be the one.

If he always makes time for you and you always make sure that you have time for him no matter how busy you are, then this is a sign of a strong relationship that will be long-lasting. 

However, if he isn’t prioritizing now and it is still early on in your relationship, then this likely won’t get any better and you need to consider if he is the right guy for you. 

4. You respect each other

In any relationship, it is normal to argue and have disagreements every now and again but if you are in a healthy relationship, you will be able to handle these conflicts in a more mature way. If you are both able to respect each other and communicate with each other properly even when you are having an argument, this is a good sign that you are meant for each other.

Healthy relationships involve a lot of communication and allow you both to feel comfortable in expressing your thoughts and feelings to each other no matter what happens. There are always going to be moments of stress during any relationship so it is important that you and your partner are able to handle them properly.

If you are able to resolve any issues that you may be having through proper communication then this is a sign that you have a really healthy relationship and he is likely the one for you. Don’t worry too much about having arguments with your partner every now and again as long as you are able to respect each other and communicate. 

5. He helps you out

Consider if your partner does little things for you every day just to help you out or to make you smile. If you are upset about something that happened at work or with your family and he is there to listen to you and make you feel better, then this is a sign that he’s a good guy and he is likely marriage material.

If he runs to the grocery shop just to pick up your favorite treats just to cheer you up after a long day or to make you smile when you are feeling unwell then he may be the one for you. If he cares enough just to do small things such as these just to make you smile then you have something special together.

If you have DIY to do around the house or household chores that you need to do such as washing the dishes or doing the laundry and he always offers to help, then this is a sign that your relationship is a good one. If he is always there to help you out just to make things easier for you or just to make you smile then this is a good sign that he’s the one for you. 

6. He listens to you

You both value communication, you are able to listen to each other and you always make sure to hear the other person’s side during an argument. If you think you are able to figure things out between you just by listening carefully to each other, then this is a sign of a good relationship. Consider if he listens to you when you are talking to him.

If you tell him about things that are worrying you, stressing you, or upsetting you and he always makes an effort to really take time to listen to you and resolve any issues then he is likely the one for you. If no matter how busy he is, he always makes time to ensure that you feel happy and listened to, then he is likely marriage material.

If you feel as if your partner doesn’t really listen to you when you are trying to tell him something, or he doesn’t listen even when you have told him that something he is doing is upsetting or annoying you then it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Be honest with how he makes you feel and walk away if he is not treating you right. 

7. You can travel with him

Traveling or going on holiday is an important test of any relationship, so if you have had a great experience on your first holiday together then this is a sign of a healthy relationship. If you cannot even make it to the airport without arguing and you can’t even decide what to eat at the airport before you are waiting for the flight then things may not be right. 

Consider if the thought of going on holiday with your partner is an amazing idea or a stressful one. Holidays can be stressful experiences if you don’t share them with the right people. 

Relationships can be hugely tested by going on holiday with each other. If you can go on holiday without arguing much at all, then you are probably meant for each other.

It is normal to have a few little arguments if your flight happens to be delayed or your rental car breaks down, but if you are able to resolve these issues together through communication then this is a good sign. If your partner is someone that you love to travel with, and it is a relaxing and fun experience then he may be the one for you. 

8. You respect each other’s independence

It is important in any relationship that you don’t completely depend on each other. Sure it is important that you are there to support each other through issues in your relationship, but if you don’t have any independence at all then your relationship is likely not a very healthy one. 

Consider if you respect your partner’s independence and if he respects yours. 

If your partner leans on you for everything and he isn’t able to do anything by himself, or you completely depend on your partner then this is not a good sign. If you know you are both there for each other when you really need them, but you can both do stuff alone, then this is a sign of a more healthy relationship. 

In relationships, it is important that you both support and care for each other, but it is important that this care and support are balanced and equally shared by each partner. If one partner constantly relies on the other for absolutely everything, then this may spell an unhealthy partnership that you meet issues further on in the future. 

9. He’s happy and comfortable around your friends and family

If he feels completely comfortable and happy around your favorite people and you feel the same around his then this is a really great sign of a healthy partnership. If you take him to drinks with your work friends or you invite him along to your friend’s birthday party then this is a sign of a good partnership.

If he always makes an effort to really get to know your family and friends then this is a sign that he cares a lot about you. If you bring him along to a family wedding or a relative’s birthday party and he really tries to learn about your people and have meaningful conversations with them then this is a sign of a good guy. 

However, if this person does not make an effort to get to know your friends and family or he hasn’t invited you to meet his then this is not such a good sign. He likely doesn’t care that much about you if he is not bothered about getting to know the closest people to you. Consider how he gets along with your favorite people to determine if he is the one.

10. You managed long distance

If, when you first met each other you were living in other countries and you had a long-distance partnership and you survived it, or if one of you had to move away for a few months because of work or other commitments and you stayed together through this, then this is a sign of a strong partnership. 

This does not mean that the long-distance part of your partnership as easy as it is normal for long-distance relationships to be really hard but if you were able to get through this together then you are likely made for each other. If you stayed together even while you were living in different countries then it is likely that you will stay together forever. 

This is one of the biggest tests that any couple will go through and if you were able to make it work this is a very good sign. Many relationships don’t survive long-distance, so it is likely that you have a really strong partnership with this guy if you were able to communicate and remain together even while you were that far apart from each other. 

11. You have made plans for the future

If you are wondering if this person is the love of life and if he is the one for you then think about how you feel about making plans for the future with him. If you feel like you are holding back from making plans with him that are too far ahead then this is a sign that he may not be the one for you or that you are not yet ready to commit to this person. 

Even though you may not be quite ready to decide on these plans then remember that it may just take a bit longer. However, if you have been together with this person for years but you still don’t feel like you are happy to decide on long-term plans for the future with him then you may need to think about this guy is the one for you.

12. He is kind to you

He is kind to you

One of the most important aspects of love relationships is kindness. Think about the kind and generous gestures that this person has made for you just to show you how much he cares. People only put in the effort for those in their life that they really love and care about. If he goes to the shop late at night just to get you your favorite snack or he buys you flowers then this person may be the one. 

FAQs

How soon can you know if he's the one?

There is no way to know how soon you will be able to determine if the guy you are with is the one for you. However, if he is always there for you, he makes you his main priority, he listens to you and always ensures that you feel happy and loved then this is a good sign he is the one for you and he may well be marriage material. 

How do you know if he is the right guy for you?

Consider how your man makes you feel if you are trying to determine if he is the right one for you. If you have a lot of doubts about if he is the one for you then it is likely that he is not. If he was right for you, he would make you feel loved and secure when you are with him, he would always put in an effort to do anything he can to ensure that you are happy.

How do you know if you're in love?

If you are in love with someone then you likely feel in a way that no one else has ever made you feel before. If this guy makes you feel really happy, content, and secure when you are with him then you are likely in love with this person. If you want to spend all of your moments with him and you are always thinking about him you may well be in love with him.

How do you know if he's cheating?

If you are worried that your guy is cheating on you or not consider his behavior and if it has changed recently. If he has suddenly started spending all of his free-time texting someone, or he spends a lot more hours at work then this may not be a good sign. However, ensure that you are completely sure before you accuse him of anything. 

How do you know if you want to marry someone?

If you are wondering how to know if you want to marry someone to consider how they treat you and if you feel happy and secure with them. If you couldn’t imagine spending your life with anyone else other than this person then it is likely that he is the one that you should marry. Consider these thoughts before you decide to marry someone. 

To Sum Up…

If you are trying to decide if the guy you are dating is the love of life and if he is the one for you

hen consider if he makes you happy and content. If he is really loving and supportive, he always listens to you when there is something upsetting you and he always does everything he can to ensure that you are happy then he is likely the one for you.

Let us know what you thought and don’t forget to share this article!

April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *