It’s obvious you suspect your partner has cheated on you, maybe he’s planning to, and you want to catch him red-handed. It’s not easy to find out; you have to be willing to get down and dirty to get to the bottom of your suspicions. Physical checks would be more accurate within two to three hours after the sexual activity.
Any longer than that, it would be almost impossible to know, apart from physical checking, you may have to observe his body language to confirm he’s actually cheating. If you watch closely, you will pick up a few behavioral signs he’s seeing someone else. They’re a couple of tell-tale signs that help you figure out if your boyfriend or partner has been with another woman.
You know your partner more than I do, you’ve seen how he behaves after sex cause you’ve been with him before. It probably doesn’t surprise you to be suspicious of this; he may or may not have cheated, but something is off and you feel he’s cheating, it’s time to keep an eye on him.
I wrote out a couple of signs that’ll help you tell if your partner is cheating on you. These signs range from physical and behavioral checks.
This is where you would have to go down and get dirty to find the truth. A lot of men who have an affair are good at hiding their infidelity, so if you suspect he is out with another woman, wait until he comes home, then initiate sexual activity. Cup your hand around his ball sack during the foreplay, I bet he would just sit back and let you do your thing; he is a man after all. Here’s your chance to do the test.
Does it feel more deflated than usual? Does it look weak and empty? It would be deflated, weak, and empty, especially if he had just ejaculated. This is a sign he probably was up to no good before getting home to you. Here’s a disclaimer, it’s possible your partner is just exhausted but do not discard your findings.
The sack test is not a hundred percent, but it would take you close. Watch his body language, too, there’s probably something to hide if he hesitates too much.
If you’ve done almost every sexual acrobat you know and your man still isn’t getting hard, it should tell you he has probably had sex already. They are a bunch of other reasons why this would happen, but this is the most significant. A man who has just roughed up the sheets with someone else would take a while to get hard again, it could also mean he’s not sexually attracted to you anymore.
Why? Perhaps he is seeing another woman, it could also mean he is exhausted, but events leading to this moment would help clarify if he’s cheating or not. If he eventually gets hard, check how long he lasts; if it’s shorter than the usual, then what is his reaction? A man would usually be embarrassed and apologetic about this. However, a cheating man would be quick to blame it on someone or something else, being overly defensive about it is a sign.
Like I said before, there would be a lot of going down and getting dirty to get to the bottom of things. Smelling his body for unfamiliar scents is one of the ways to know if your partner is cheating. You could perceive a ladies’ perfume on his neck or shirt or taste something unusual on him when he comes home.
If down there smells like soap, especially feminine soap, that’s a huge sign. He is covering something up, think about it, what would cause him to put soap on there at work? Except he was doing himself, but can he do that at work? If you taste something like latex on him when you get down, that’s the aftermath of using a condom; it’ll leave a taste.
If your partner is cheating without protection, that’s a red flag; it would smell and taste like semen when you get in there. You’ll be able to tell if he was intimate with a different woman if his penis is still a bit wet, and the length of it smells like semen.
That your significant other spends a reasonable amount of time outside the home with other people, with no solid excuse is a sign he’s up to something naughty, especially if he was fond of getting back home early and things are different now. In addition to getting home late, your partner is secretive about who he was with and what they were up to.
As soon as he returns home, that’s the best time to hug that man and take a whiff of any strangers' perfume. If he’s not cheating, then he shouldn’t be smelling like roses and lemon, when his perfume notes are woodier. If he unapologetically does whatever he feels, then this man shows little regard for you. Dating this kind of a person is tiring and pointless, he’s having an affair and probably isn’t in love with you anymore.
Is your partner acting weird by refusing to get intimate with you? If he’s always coming up with one excuse or the other day after day, something isn’t right. He may be having an affair with another woman. He would rather take time off on his own even when you both are in the same apartment.
If the man says nothing is bothering him when it looks like something is eating him up on the inside, it might not be that he cheated on you, maybe he’s going through some things. I’d advise you to give him time to come around on his own. Trying to get a person who doesn’t want to speak with you to talk to you is a very dire situation to put yourself in, the rejection would sting.
If your man is getting too close to a lady, that’s a warning sign. You need to act on it quickly before it gets too much to handle. It’s okay for him to be friends with other ladies but there’s a thin line. Watch the way they communicate, if things get really intense between them when they are around each other, they might have had sex or are planning to.
Are they touching for too long? Do you catch him staring at her or is there some kind of unspoken communication going on between them? It’s easy to figure out when two people are silently flirting with each other, it doesn’t necessarily mean the man is cheating, but he may be planning to.
He probably would start hiding his phone from you and taking more calls outside than he usually does, if this is the case, then something is up. It’s easier to know your husband is cheating when you know and have seen a prospect. Cheating is a hard pill to swallow, nobody deserves to be treated like that in a relationship.
Another trick to finding out if your partner just slept with another girl is to check for physical signs on his body. Could be a hickey or scratches, those things are not easy to get rid of; more so, you’d find it if he has one. Has he been coming home with weird injuries on his body, says it’s nothing when you ask him? That’s a sign.
Especially if your partner is someone who’s into little rough activities during sex, don’t ignore any new scars it might just be a tale of what he has been up to behind your back. Guys are good at hiding stuff like this from their partners; the reason he’s putting up a front is cause you’re going to find something.
More so, you have to be smooth about this search; he could realize you’re looking for something and get real defensive about it. This man can make you look stupid even when he’s guilty of what you think he’s been up to. As long as you have no proof that he’s cheating, you’ll just look crazy, take your time and be sweet about this investigation.
Jumping on him once he gets back to rip his clothes off in search is a bit too much unless you smother yourselves like that usually. Get him to relax and be subtle about the search till you find it; it may not be there so it didn’t make this obvious.
This sign may come off as a huge cliché, but it’s true; some people glow after sex, mostly if it was good sex. Take yourself, for example; think back to when you went full-blown kinky and satisfied your dark sexual desires, weren’t you happy and glowing on the inside? I’m sure you were.
News flash, you’re not the only one that feels this way after good sex. You become giggly and excited about almost everything. It happens to men; they may try to stifle it, but it’s there. Maybe you want to know about your crush and if he’s having sex with anyone else, the glow is the best way you can tell from a distance.
Watch him, is he smiling to himself like he just had flashbacks of a fantastic time? Is there someone he’s touchy with? If yes, he might just be cheating or seeing someone else.
Except you catch a man in the act of cheating it’s hard to figure out what he’s up to, you can check by any changes in how he smells, or if he comes home wearing different clothes. Although smelling the penis and checking the color of his semen would help, it’s only viable within the time frame of his sexual activity.
If your partner is cheating or has cheated on you, there’s bound to be some behavioral changes. They don’t want to sleep with you as much or at all; they hardly come home early or at all. You could also find out by checking him physically for anything distinctive smell when he gets back home.
There would be a change in how they interact with each other, long stares, intimate touching, and public display of affection. If they aren’t an item, things might become awkward between them. They may equally be pretty secretive with their inside signals, giddy around each other, and seen together at odd hours.
It would begin to feel like you are sharing his time and attention with someone else. If he’s being a bit too secretive about where he’s going or what he is up to, that’s a sign. In a long-distance relationship, continuously declining your call or asking you to call only when he says it’s okay is another sign, you’re not the only one.
If a partner loves you, he would not want to lose you. Situations that make him feel like he can lose you would scare him. Try to make him jealous; if he doesn’t flinch, he probably knows you’re just messing around, or he simply doesn’t love you that much. A man that loves you would make sacrifices for you, care for you, and would look out for your happiness always.
Did you enjoy reading this article? I hope you did. Remember, physical checks have a time frame, so when in doubt, watch out for behavioral changes. Let me know what you think in the comment section below, and please share this article as well.