How to Stop Wanting a Relationship (9 Ways to Be Single and Happy, And Find Love!)

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a relationship. Human beings are social animals after all. But when your desire for a partner overrides everything else in your life, it might be time for a rethink.

When you are single it can seem as if everyone else is either married or has a significant other. It is easy to fall into a trap of wanting to be in a relationship, simply because all your friends are happily coupled off.

The problem is that you can start to feel impatient and left on the shelf. You feel desperate to start a serious relationship. And there’s nothing worse than someone who appears desperate.

Sometimes it seems that a loving relationship is never going to happen for you. You think you are going to be single forever and never find love. This can lead to low self-esteem and a lack of confidence when you do venture out.

Or worse, you become so focused on finding love that you let your standards drop and date the wrong person. You’d rather be in a relationship than on your own.

So how do you stop wanting a relationship when you want to find love? Whilst I cannot guarantee love, I assure you, if you follow these tips you’ll see your dating world open up exponentially.

9 Ways How to Stop Wanting a Relationship

1. Go out more

You will never find a partner, let alone your ideal love match if you stay at home. Get out and about. Yes, you can frequent bars or clubs that are not too noisy and allow you to spend quality time with someone. However, don't rule out theatres, sporting clubs and venues, museums, and art galleries. 

Dating apps can be really useful, whether you are after a serious relationship or romantic love. In fact, it is extremely common now for couples to meet on the internet. 

2. Be open-minded

Start saying yes to more things. It doesn't matter what it is, whether it’s agreeing to a blind date or going to a sporting event. We meet people in all kinds of situations, but if you’re not open-minded you may miss out on a chance of love. You never know, you might start having fun and meet someone by accident!

3. Be aware of your body language

Sometimes our body language can be off-putting to potential love matches. If you are standing in a corner with your arms crossed against your chest you are not exactly giving off a sign that you are approachable.

There are several techniques that instantly cause a connection, for example, mirroring the other person’s body language, tilting your head towards them, and having an open posture.

4. Be yourself

I don't know about you but I find first dates exhausting. You have to be on your best behavior and present the best version of yourself. Actually, that is not strictly true. Yes, you should display good manners and social etiquette, but sometimes the best dates happen when things don’t go to plan. Don't be afraid to show your goofy or quirky self.

5. Have a life

Are you going to be attracted to someone who has no friends, no social life, or no interests? Of course not! And the same applies to you. We are drawn to interesting people who appear well-balanced, have strong ties with family, and have a good set of friends.

If I gave you a choice of dating one person with no friends, no social life or interests, or another one with long-standing friends, a few hobbies, and social skills, who would you prefer? 

See yourself through this prism. How attractive are you to potential dates? Find joy in your life and attract new people. 

6. Learn how to flirt

It’s easy to miss the signs that someone is interested in you, but are you aware of how you come across? We’ve already talked about body language and how that can influence people. Now I need to remind you of the art of flirting.

If you like someone, touch them playfully on the knee or shoulder. When you talk, use their name a lot in conversation, and make close eye contact with them.

7. Pursue your interests

I want you to name three things you are passionate about. Perhaps you like exercising and going to the gym? Maybe you love to read or like going to the cinema? You might be interested in popular science or crafting. 

Whatever your interest, pursue it! This might mean going to see your team play or buying tickets for your favorite band.

If you like walking why not find a hiking club in your area? If you have a dog chat to other walkers. When you pursue your interests you create a more-rounded person and you get to go out and socialize without the pressure of dating.

8. Spend time with your friends

Friends tend to take a back seat when it comes to new relationships. If you are not in a relationship why not use this time more effectively and spend time with your friends? 

Arrange night outs or even weekends away. Drop by for coffee and a chat. Ask them about their lives and be present for them. Strengthen your bonds with close friends and reach out to distant ones.

9. Change your attitude

When you are single it is easy to think that you’ll never find someone, let alone the right person. You start to think that you’ll end up alone for the rest of your life. Of course, this is nonsense. 

Remember the last time you were single and then started dating? That feeling lasted forever too, didn't it? It’s important to accept that this is just another phase in your life. Right now you are not in a romantic relationship, but this will pass.

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In Conclusion

It is easy to forget the feeling of being single and wanting to be in a relationship. It can become all-consuming to the point where we miss out on opportunities to meet new people. Remember, love has a habit of surprising you when you least expect it. So be open-minded, say yes to more social events and live your best life. Then something amazing will happen.