We’ve all been left wondering at some point in our dating life what exactly is going on. You think you’ve really hit it off with this guy only for him to start playing mind games that makes you question everything.
Is he into me? Does he need time? Is he confused? Am I reading into things? As I said, we’ve all been there.
It can be frustrating not knowing where you stand with someone. But who says you have to be on the receiving end of these mind games all the time? If you ever feel like giving men a taste of their own medicine, here’s how to return the favor in kind.
Even if you want nothing more than to spend time with him, act busy and make him wait/work for your attention. Men who play games never make anything easy for you, so why should you? Is he asking you on a date or trying to chat? Maintain the upper hand by evading more than you agree. Oh, and be vague with your reasons too.
Playing mind games with men is easy when you know your way around words. The plan is to make him feel like the best thing since sliced bread one day, then act completely indifferent the next.
Flirt with him, use words of affirmation, or anything else you know would make him feel special. When he starts to get comfortable, simply start treating him like another random person. If he brings up your mixed signals later, tell him it’s not him, it’s you.
Nothing gets the mind games going faster than flaunting the competition. You don’t want to be too overt with this, though, for plausible deniability. For instance, you can pick an admirer’s call while you two are casually hanging out. Or casually tell him about the new guys in your DM looking to link up.
You don’t have to butter them up or anything, just being aware that there are other people is enough to keep him on his toes.
Men love to see the girl they like act jealous when she sees them around another. If you’re playing games with this man, never give him that benefit.
Instead of giving him attitude for talking to another woman, or whatever else you’d typically do out of jealousy, do the exact opposite. Seeing it isn’t getting to you will get an internal debate going in his mind on whether you even like him, meaning your game is paying off.
Do you know the type of eye contact that conveys deep feelings for someone without you having to say a word? Make that with him sometimes. Tease his second brain with the way you sway your hips when you want him. Smile and keep an open demeanor around him. And just after getting what you want, when he starts to think you might be into him, withdraw and go back to normal.
In the same vein as flaunting the competition, a good way to keep men on their best behavior is to talk up your ex. If you think he might be dropping the ball and don’t want to bring it up directly, casually ‘go down memory lane’ and insert how good your ex did a certain thing or things.
Men hate to be compared to someone else, and sometimes, it just brings out the competitiveness in them.
Here’s another thing you can do to retain the upper hand, never be the first to text. Men enjoy playing this particular game as you reaching out first gives them an advantage. Well, it’s time to turn the tables around. Regardless of how well you connect or how exciting your conversations are, make sure you don’t initiate them so he keeps believing he wants you more than you do him.
Apart from the fact that it may not feel right flirting with other people in front of someone you’re seeing, you may not always get the chance. Doing it on social media, however, is another ballgame – if you follow each other. There are several ways to indirectly make your guy uneasy this way, from dropping suggestive emojis under another guy’s posts to generally ‘acting single’ online.
If you want to toy with men’s emotions and give them something to think about, the secret is to remain a mystery to them. For every mile of ground, you cover in getting to know them, only give an inch about yourself. Two things will keep him coming back if you try this: curiosity and the feeling that someone wants to hear all about him.
Nothing makes a man as uncomfortable as when he can’t read what is going through your mind. Do you want an advantage over him during a fight? Refuse to tell him what he did wrong. Rather, resort to giving him attitude or the silent treatment to get him to mull over all the possibilities. Or withdraw and tell him to leave you alone while your actions say entirely otherwise.
Never let a man know you enough to predict you. Try and change things up now and then to retain the power between the two of you. That is, he shouldn’t be able to say this is exactly how you feel about him, whether hot or cold, because then it wouldn’t be fun anymore, would it?
How do you achieve the previous point? Simple. Remain mysterious, mix up the signals you put out either verbally or otherwise, and, more importantly, never fully commit to anything with him.
Even if you’re free and down to party every weekend, don’t say “yes” outrightly if he invites you. Include the clause that you’ll have to see how it goes. The same goes for any other thing he might ask of you.
The idea of playing these games is to remain the catch; to have the deciding power in your interaction with the other person. For the most part, that involves knowing when to show interest, how much of it is required as well as when to hold back. Once you figure this out, all that’s really left is to rinse and repeat until one of you bows out.
A man who is playing with you only treats you decently when he wants something. Everything he does is a means to that end. He’d never go out of his way to do anything for you if he doesn’t stand to gain from it.
You can either choose to win him at his own game or forget him completely and move on with your life. If you choose the former, start by going off his radar for a while. When you resurface, act like he doesn’t exist, and he’d actively try to reel you back in.
A player’s biggest weapon is their charm. They try to boost their self-esteem by leveraging their most attractive qualities. It might be looks, words, money, or anything else. They get knocked off their game when they come across someone who seems immune to whatever they’re selling. If you can manage that, you’ve won.
You toy with someone’s mind by taking advantage of your position in their life or something they want from you to manipulate them into doing your bidding. This is not a healthy thing to do and shouldn’t be taken lightly as it can have lasting detrimental effects on an individual’s mental health.
You know he’s only playing when he’s never serious until he needs you. He is either hard to reach or always making excuses unless he stands to gain something from being available. If he makes you feel bad or disappears when you call out his toxic attitude, it’s all just a game to him.
People who play games with me, you, or anyone else, are just like us, they just try to think smarter and trickier. While I usually advise not to pay evil with evil, it’s best to be equipped if it came down to it. If you enjoyed reading this, please leave a comment and feel free to share the article with others.