It might feel incredibly frustrating knowing that you’re ready to begin dating and you have someone that you’re definitely wanting to go out with, but your parents seem to be holding you back. This frustration can be amplified if most of your friends are already dating and allowed to do so.
However, there are some things that you can do to make sure that you’re out on the dating scene in no time! In this article, we’re going to help you out by sharing the 5 things you need to do to change your parent’s minds so that you’re allowed to date. So, let’s not waste any more time and get into it!
Before you even try and speak to your parents, you need to try and understand where they are coming from and try and answer the question “why don’t they want me to be dating?”. There may be many reasons that your parents may not want you to burst out onto the dating scene, from strict religious beliefs to overprotectiveness, to simply thinking you’re just too young.
Most parents are always trying to do what they think is best for their child, and they might think that not being allowed to begin dating is actually what’s best for you, even if you think otherwise.
Once you have gained some understanding of your parent’s point of view, you will be better equipped to tell them why they shouldn’t have these concerns, and by already acknowledging their concerns, your parents will see you as a responsible, mature person that’s ready to date.
One of the biggest reasons parents have for not wanting their child to date is that they don’t think their child is mature enough yet. So, all you need to do is show your parents that you are mature. After all, if you want to be treated like an adult, you do have to act like one.
So, ensure that you’re doing well at high school, try and show mature understanding in conversations, obey rules, and act like a grown-up. If you show your parents that you can be mature in other aspects of your life, they’ll know that you’re actually mature enough to have a dating life.
If you’re wanting your parents to allow you to begin dating, it’s vital that you actually talk to your parents. You should ask if you can have a sit-down, in a safe space, just yourself and your parents, about your potential dating life.
It’s important that you stay calm and act like a grown-up when talking to your parents so that there’s clear, honest communication between you all. Even if you feel like what your parents are saying is unfair, don’t get angry or act immaturely, just stay calm and rise above it.
If you can properly communicate with your parents in a calm and respectful manner, they will not only appreciate it, but they will see just how mature you are in all aspects of your life, which is something they want to know before they let you go dating!
Hopefully, after sitting down and having a conversation with your parents, they come to the conclusion that you’re allowed to begin dating! If they do, then they will most definitely want to set some ground rules, and you should be as much a part of this process as they are.
Listen to your parent’s concerns and suggest rules that seem suitable for everyone, which once again shows maturity and respect. Altogether, you should come up with a list of ground rules that everyone’s clear on so that you can all move forward happily and stress-free.
Once these rules have been set, it’s absolutely essential that you respect them and stick to them. If your parents have allowed you to date, then that’s a win! All you need to do to ensure the winning continues is stick to the ground rules and everyone will be happy.
If you find it particularly difficult to speak to your parents or you struggle with your parent’s attitudes to dating and your growth into adulthood, it might be a good idea to seek guidance and help from a third-party person.
Depending on how you feel, this could be from a counselor or a trusted older friend, or a family member. Speaking about your issues to someone that you trust is a great way to figure things out.
This third-party person might even be able to help you talk to your parents and figure out a solution to your problem.
Hopefully, all of the information above in this article will give you an in-depth understanding of how you can successfully get your parents to allow you to begin dating, or have a boyfriend. Overall, you need to try and understand your parent’s point of view, show your parents that you’re mature enough to date in the first place, communicate clearly with them, and stick to rules that have been mutually agreed on.
If you’re wanting to ask your parents if it’s ok for you to go out on a date, you should simply try and communicate clearly with them. When you do have a chat about it with your parents, make sure you’re rational, mature and open-minded to their opinions. You need to respect your parent’s opinion and be sure that if they do allow you to go on a date that you stick to the rules so that you can build their trust and respect.
You can’t and shouldn’t ever force your parents to say yes to something. If you try and force them into saying yes, they will most likely swing the opposite way and say no. You need to show your parents that you’re mature, and mature people communicate clearly and honestly with others, without having to force anyone to do anything. Instead of trying to force your parents to say anything, try having an open and honest conversation with them.
If you’re under 18 and living at home, your parents definitely have the ability to deter you from dating and make it difficult for you to date. Of course, you could always date people in secret, but this is definitely not a good idea! If you know that your parents want to stop you from dating, think about why that is and try to see things from their perspective. Then, you should have a clear, open, and honest conversation with them about how you want to begin dating.
The age that people begin dating is really mixed, depending on personal preference and the freedom given to them by their parents. Typically, most people will begin dating and enter into their first relationship when they’re around 16 - 18 years old, but some people are known to begin dating as young as 14. The age you begin dating is something that should be discussed at length with your parents, as well as assessed properly in your own head.
Hopefully, this article has given you a few tips that you can use to try and get your parents to allow you to begin dating. However, you do need to remember that your parents do normally know what’s best for you, so it’s best to respect their opinions and have mature conversations with them if you want to be allowed to date.
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