How To Be Mysterious (19 Ways To Be Mysterious To A Man)

Last updated on June 10, 2022 by April Maccario

Bede Jarret once said, “The mysterious is always attractive. People will always follow a veil”. 

There is a certain delight that comes with the unusual. Humans, especially men, like the unattainable; they are curious and like what they do not fully understand.

People love the process of learning about the unknown and uncovering it. As soon as you learn how to be unpredictable, you put yourself in the position of power because you understand him and how he ticks. The fewer people that understand you, the more attractive you become. 

The attraction is only intensified when people can’t predict your next move. So, if you’re interested in peaking the interest in your relationship, or trying to get a man's attention, you need to know how to be more mysterious.

19 Ways To Be Mysterious

1. Don’t be who you are not

Give this a thought; the reason why you think people are “so unique or different” from you is because of their various views and opinions on life. Well, guess what? They find you unique as well, unless you start conforming to the status quo that is. 

Don’t feel like you have to be like someone else to be unpredictable, that’s not how to be mysterious. Now, don't get me wrong; I am not saying you should not adjust certain character traits to accommodate your partner. I am saying that you fascinated him, and the reason there is any form of relationship is because he is attracted to the mystery that is you. 

 The "you" factor is the element that attracted him initially. So, be you unapologetically and loudly. 

2. Exude confidence

exude confidence

In this game of life, confidence is everything, that’s why some women have that invisible glow when they walk. If you want to know how to be more mysterious, then you have to exude more confidence. I am not encouraging arrogance, and neither am I urging you to argue at every point; nobody finds that intriguing.

Simply be assertive and comfortable in your skin, and leave your man continually asking, “what is it about her?” Let him repeatedly marvel at how much trust you have in yourself. You become a person of interest when you have the sense of who you are, and are unapologetic about it.

3. Posture

Now that you know how to be yourself, you have to sit and stand like it. Slouching doesn't exude confidence, it does the exact opposite. So work on your posture by practicing yoga. The perfect posture is standing straight and tall with the shoulders back and the stomach in. You’d be surprised at the eyes that would turn in interest just because of the way you walk, sit or stand.

4. Don’t give out too much

You read that right, don’t answer all of his questions right away. Omit the most important ones purposely. When you say less, you leave room for introspection, and you pique people’s interest in you. 

5. Be independent 

Imagine a self-sufficient woman, a goal-getter, unafraid to make decisions or make things happen, and a risk-taker who does not need constant validation. 

Do you not like the sound of that? Do you not want to meet the mysterious woman reveling in her own autonomy? So be her.

Men find themselves more attracted to independent women because they are unpredictable and interesting. 

6. Lift your heart off your sleeves

People who wear their hearts on their sleeves leave little or nothing to the imagination. They are an open book, and men find nothing mysterious about them. That’s not how to be mysterious.

Also be aware that leaning forward indicates interest, and leaning backward shows that you are relaxed. I’ll advise you to lean in between. This way, the person you’re speaking to can’t read your emotions. Also, placing your tongue at the roof of your mouth makes it hard to frown. I know you just tried it, so go forth and cloak your feelings. 

7. Be sparingly unavailable

One thing some women don’t know is that a person who is too available will be taken for granted.  You need to find a balance, spend time doing things that matter to you before considering hanging out with others. Remember, familiarity breeds contempt.

8. Forget the past

It’s called ‘past’ for a reason, so why brood over it? No man likes a woman that talks about that one guy that broke her heart from the 80s. He will save your name as “break up Brandy” on his phone and won’t see you as mysterious because you have repeated your story a thousand times. This is why it is important to get therapy, heal, and move on.

9. Don’t be the same person everywhere

Variety is the spice of life, and a mysterious woman is a versatile queen. So, let your multiple sides and personalities come out to play. Do not be afraid to show every amazing part of you. The mystery is that he never knows what side of you he is getting.

10. Good social skills

good social skills

The ability to communicate efficiently in any gathering leaves the “who is she” or “what is it about her” factor at all times. Possessing the social skills to interact makes you mysterious and adds to your sex appeal.

11. Making eye contact 

This shows that you are mysterious, confident, and assertive with high self-esteem. Establishing eye contact and keeping it for a minimum of 4-5 seconds so it doesn’t come off as weird will do the trick. Research shows that not making eye contact indicates anxiousness and low self-esteem. More so, men are more interested in a mysterious woman that maintains eye contact.

12. Be spontaneous 

You become more attractive and mysterious when your partner or a potential lover has no idea what you will do next. Whether you are in a relationship or you are dating casually, be spontaneous. He will find you intriguing, and you will have him at the palm of your hands because, like Oliver Twist, he will ask for more

Spontaneity makes him ask, “what is she going to do next?” And that’s exactly what you want.

13. Go big on your words

Improve your vocabulary. Use words that he won’t commonly use, or he might have to grab a dictionary afterward to know the meaning. Nothing screams ‘mysterious’ like an intelligent woman, and nothing beats a mysterious person with intelligence. So make him want to know more by being more articulate.

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14. Reduce your social media presence

Suppose you are constantly updating your social media followers on what you had for dinner, how impressive your pet is, and other things happening in your life. In that case, nothing will be left to the imagination. Don’t let him in on everything you do on social media; it will leave a certain mystery to your personality.

15. Sense of style

To be mysterious, you have to cultivate a distinct sense of style. Mix up styles, dress differently on different days and let people wonder what style you’ll pull off next. Mystery is an art, and like every art, it is expressive, so express it in the way you dress.

16. Be unattainable

Nobody wants a doormat they can step on; nothing is mysterious about an easy woman. Men like a chase, and if they are chasing you, it means you are challenging, and men love a good old challenge. Be hard to get; recognize that nothing good comes easy, and you should not be too available. If it’s easy, then it is not mysterious.

17. Explore


When you explore, it gives off a sense of adventure, and men immediately tag adventurous women as fun and mysterious. Do fascinating things and go to different exotic locations if you have the resources for it. A well-traveled woman always piques the interest of those around her.

18. Be your fan-girl, not his fawn-girl

Fawning over a guy will come off as desperate, and no man wants a desperate woman. Even if you are head over heels in love with him, let him question it sometimes by toning down the fawning. Invest it in fangirling yourself and showing your self-love.

For instance, cancel dates with your partner or a prospective love interest to meet up with your pedicure appointment. Let him know you are still the most important factor and that in itself is unpredictable.

19. Be a challenge 

Don’t conform or bend to his rules like other girls in his past did. Give him a good challenge; guys love a good challenge. In fact, they love competitions. So be unpredictable and give him a trophy to go after and get his full attention by being mysterious.


How do you keep your relationship a mystery?

In a relationship, keeping your flair is important, and a way to achieve that is by being your authentic self. Remember that you are the mystery that attracted your partner initially, so don't stop being yourself.

How do you make a guy interested in you?

I know I sound like a broken record, but being yourself is how to make a guy interested in you. You are you, and that is your superpower. Draw him to you by reveling in your fantastic personality.

What features make a woman beautiful?

Beauty makes the one who is aware of it and not the one who possesses it.  A woman that is self-aware and confident in herself is a real beauty. She knows that she is the price and treats herself as such. Guys will forever find her beautiful. 

What attracts a man in a woman?

How a woman carries herself is what attracts guys to her. If she carries herself in confidence and high regard, they will be attracted to her and want to know her more.

What men look for in a woman physically?

Happy people are attractive people, so men find women that smile more attractive. Ensure to smile every now and then, and when necessary.

In conclusion 

Remember that being unpredictable and mysterious is attractive; less is more, and not giving out too much about yourself to a guy leaves room for rumination. And so he begins to ask numerous questions like “who is she?” “what is it about her?” 

Fascinate guys today by imbibing the various ways I have mentioned and leave them coming back for more of you. I hope you enjoyed the article? Kindly let me know what you think in the comment section below and share this article if you liked it.

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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