He Texts But Doesn’t Ask Me Out (5 Things It Could Mean & What To Do About It)

Last updated on June 11, 2022 by April Maccario

Do you find yourself constantly talking to a guy that you’re pretty certain you have a mutual romantic connection with, but it never leads anywhere? Or perhaps someone new popped up on your dating app and things have moved onto texts but nothing has progressed further? 

It can be really frustrating when a man you’re interested in texts you all the time but doesn’t make the move to ask you out yet. 

Your mind might immediately jump to the worst conclusions that he’s not into you or you’ve said something wrong over text that’s made him not want to date you, but don’t panic right away. 

A guys texting behavior is incredibly different from that of a woman’s - women often practice clear communication with one another and voice their emotions and opinions honestly, especially when it comes to love, whereas men tend not to. This is why you often need to try and figure out what’s going on in a man’s head, without even confronting him.

In this article, we’re going to take a look at what it could mean when a man texts you but doesn’t ask you out. Hopefully, you’ll be able to identify which reason your guy has for not asking you out yet. Then, once you have hopefully identified what’s going on, we’re also going to share some ideas of what you can do in this situation. 

Let’s jump right in and try and figure out why you’ve not been asked out already!

Why Does He Text But Not Ask You Out

1. He’s nervous to ask you out

If he keeps texting you but hasn’t actually gotten around to asking you out on a date yet, one of the most obvious explanations for this is because he’s nervous about it. He might be nervous about moving your relationship from friends into something more romantic, he might be overthinking how he should ask you, and he’ll most likely be nervous about whether you’re going to agree to date him or not. 

A man like this will definitely drop hints that he likes you, he’ll speak to you frequently and he’ll try to ask you questions that give you the opportunity to tell him how you feel about him. This guy simply needs a bit more time to gain enough courage to ask you out.

2. He’s not sure that you’re into him

he's not sure that you're into him

Obviously, when it comes to love, people avoid rejection at all costs, and if a man thinks that he might be rejected by you, he’s not going to ask you out. 

If someone isn’t sure whether you’re into them or not, they might spend a lot of time texting you to really get to know you and figure out if you possibly feel the same way towards them as they do towards you. If you haven’t really shown someone that you’re romantically interested in them, you can’t expect them to read your mind and ask you out - you need to at least drop some hints that you’d love to date them!

3. He wants to get to know you more first

Someone that’s texting you but hasn’t asked you out yet might be trying to get to know you first before they jump in and start dating you. This is a perfectly normal thing to do as they will be trying to find out what kind of thing you’re into, what your personality is like, and what’s going on in your love life to see if the two of you would be compatible in a relationship together.

4. He wishes you would make the first move

If you haven’t been asked out yet even though you’re texting someone constantly, have you ever thought that it might be because they want you to be the one to put yourself out there? When it comes to the modern dating world, it’s not always down to the men to put themselves out there, and maybe the man you’re talking to is just waiting for you to invite them on a date.

5. He’s not into you

Obviously, this is the thing that you’ll be dreading the most, but it could be the truth. If someone never makes the move to turn the relationship between you into more than friends, it could be because they simply don’t want to. Perhaps this person thinks the relationship between the two of you is purely platonic, he’s more interested in dating other women or he’s just not into you in that way. 

What To Do About It

One of the points above should hopefully explain why the guy you’re talking to hasn’t asked you out yet. Although it’s great if you’ve been able to figure it out, you also need to know what to do next, and that’s exactly what the next part of this article is going to tell you.

1. Make sure you’re not wasting your time

The most important thing you need to do is make sure that you don’t waste your time on someone that isn’t interested in you. If you don’t think the guy you’re talking to is interested in you, you might want to test your theory. You could tell him you’re thinking about going and dating someone else and see how he reacts, for example. If he doesn’t seem to care, don’t waste your time trying to get him to ask you out.

2. Show him that you like him

show him that you like him

Men don’t ask women out unless they know they’re interested in them, and your man might not think you’re interested! So, if you think this is the reason he’s not approached you about dating yet, it’s time to get your flirt on! Make sure this man knows that you’re interested in dating him, and maybe then he’ll have the confidence to ask you out.

3. Practice clear communication

If you’re confident enough to, it’s a good idea to practice clear communication and just tell this man outright that you like him and that you’re interested in dating him. Obviously, you’ll only want to do this if you’re 99% certain he likes you back, so look out for signs that he likes you, and then just communicate your feelings clearly. There’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows what she wants in love and takes control.


Why do guys keep texting but never ask you out?

There are several reasons why a guy will keep texting you but won’t ask you out, and hopefully, after reading this article and taking a look at the 6 points above, you’ll understand them. A guy might not ask you out for an array of reasons, from the fact that he might be waiting for you to make the first move, to the fact he’s simply not into you in that way. You need to try and read around the situation you’re in and see which reason resonates the most.

What does it mean when he only texts and never calls?

If a man only ever texts you, it could quite simply be because he’s nervous about speaking on the phone or due to the fact he’s got such a busy schedule. However, if neither of these things are true, it could mean that he’s not emotionally invested in you enough to pick up the phone and spend time talking to you, instead, he can quickly text you and be done with it. 

Why do guys never ask me out?

There could be several reasons that men don’t ask you out, and most of them won’t be your fault. One of the most common reasons is that some women really intimidate men, so much so that they don’t feel confident enough to ask them out. If you’re a super independent woman in both life and love, men might feel intimidated and therefore they might avoid asking you out.

How often should a guy text if he likes you?

This really depends on each individual person and the situation between two people. Some men love to text their love interests all day every day, and others prefer to keep texts limited so they can really catch up when they see each other in person. Typically though, if a guy likes you he will text you at least once every two days.

What does it mean if he texts every day?

If a guy is dedicating time to text you every day there’s a very strong chance that he’s attracted to you and emotionally invested in you. If a guy is texting you every day it’s because he wants to not only keep up with how you are and have interesting conversations with you but also because he wants to be in your life on a daily basis.

In Conclusion

After reading this article you should hopefully understand why the guy you’re into is texting you but isn’t asking you out. Try not to jump to the worst conclusion straight away, practice clear communication and maybe even try taking a leap of faith yourself and ask this guy out if you think he’s interested in you. 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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