He Rejected Me (11 Ways To Handle The Situation Smoothly)

by April Maccario

Regardless of who is rejecting you, how, or why you have been rejected, it’s a painful experience. It’s a form of shunning that knows no bounds and will always hurt regardless of how prepared we are. In fact, research shows that when people expect rejection, they are more likely to be sensitive towards it. 

So, it almost feels like there is no winning when it comes to rejection - it will hurt whether you expect it or not. Therefore, it would be wise to focus on knowing how to respond to rejection from a guy rather than continuously feeling anxious. 

When a man rejects you, there is always the tendency to try and grasp on tighter by begging him to change his mind or push him away completely. While these two impulses are entirely reasonable as they come from fear, they would be you allowing your emotions to control you. 

However, if you want to show your best self as a classy lady, you must let go of your initial instincts and adopt the reactions below.

11 Things To Do When He Rejects You

1. Allow yourself to be vulnerable

There is no point trying to stop yourself from feelings of hurt or disappointment, and what’s even worse is trying to hide it from him. Be honest about how his rejection feels and let him see your vulnerability even if it makes you cry. 

Showing him your vulnerability here does not mean begging him to be with you or giving ultimatums; it merely means being real with your emotions. This could involve taking a deep breath and letting this person know that you feel disappointed by his rejection because you had hoped for a better reaction.

2. Accept his decisions

Accept his decisions

The last thing you want to do if a man rejects you is to try and fight his decision at the moment. Doing that will only push the person further away and make you look less valuable in his eyes.

Try and see things from his point of view and accept his decision for what it is. 

Let him know that while you would have appreciated a positive response to your advances, you will not be the girl who chases him. The fantastic thing about refusing to fight his decision is that it makes him reconsider if he has truly made the best decision, and it gives off a sign of self-respect.

3. Be proud of your courage

It takes a lot of courage to approach a guy and express your feelings. Many girls would not do this because of fear, so you should give yourself a tap on the back for taking such a courageous step. How did you feel after he said no, or refused your advances? Embarrassed? Dejected? 

Well, don’t let those feelings overwhelm you, in life, you either win or lose, but the greatest losers are those who don’t try at all. Give yourself a treat for overcoming your fear and taking matters into your hands. 

Also, remember that nothing good comes easy so appreciate the fact that your courageous act is now going to save you from doubt and wasting your energy on someone who doesn’t share the same emotional feelings as you do.

4. It’s not you

Simply because you have been rejected by a person does not mean you have a problem. People have different tastes and are probably going through a phase in their life; therefore, there is no need to take rejection too personally. Do you accept every guy that walks up to you? 

No right? 

Sometimes, it’s not about their looks or personality, but simply because there’s no connection. While they may be verbally saying no, you should understand that they are not saying no to you as an individual, instead, he is saying no to having a relationship with you. 

5. Don’t be hard on yourself

So you have expressed your feelings to a friend whose vibes you may have misinterpreted, now is not the time to beat yourself up. Don’t go about making statements or decisions like, “I got rejected by a guy friend, I don’t think I’ll ever tell someone I like them again.” 

Such comments will only lead to you building walls and preventing yourself from experiencing a fantastic friendship with someone else. 

6. Quit acting like a victim

The mere fact that you were courageous enough to ask a guy out should motivate you always to take matters into your hands. There is no need to sit around and wail for too long. Resist the temptation to sit on your couch for days watching Netflix and victimizing yourself. 

His rejection is not the end of the world; therefore, you must ensure that you will continue to take chances and seize opportunities in life.

7. Embrace your individuality

So this person rejected you, and you feel like you can’t live with the hurt? If so, at some point, you may even start hating how you look.  Don’t ever think of changing the way you look to please someone else. These are things that make you unique as an individual. 

Accept your flaws, knowing that one day, you will meet someone who appreciates them all and will want you to change nothing.

8. Let them go

A wise man once said that, if you love something, you should let it go, for if it is truly yours, it will come back to you. He was right. Letting go is not an easy task, and I understand if you feel like proving your worth to the person who has rejected you because you believe that will make him change his mind. 

However, you should wish him well and let him go. Most men will always return when they see that you know your value and are not chasing after them.

9. Let him know where your relationship stands

Let him know where your relationship stands

Let’s assume you have just asked your best friend or coworker out, and he rejected you, it is only normal that things will feel awkward for a while. He may also be feeling embarrassed and afraid to communicate with you in the same way he did before. 

Therefore, it is up to you to let him know that even though he rejected you, it’s nothing personal, and you can still be cordial friends. However, if you still feel hurt, you can ask him for a little space to nurse your feelings.

10. Reassess your life

Believe it or not, a rejection could be used as a tool for self-improvement. It is not the time to curl into a hole and wish the world would disappear because you are ashamed. Instead, see it as a wake-up call.  

If a person told you that their reason for rejection has something to do with a character flaw, now is the time to look inwards and reassess yourself. Perhaps, there is some truth to what they said and if so, figure out ways to be a better human. 

11. Rely on your support system

Nothing beats having a good support system when you are feeling low, they will always put you in check and reassure you of your feelings. They are people who love us and won’t want to see us make stupid decisions. A sound support system is especially valuable if you are someone who is sensitive and tends to overreact when rejected

FAQs

What to do if a man rejects you?

If a man rejects you, the most important thing to do is acknowledge and accept his decision. If you go about begging him to stay, he may change his mind, but those feelings will not be genuine - clearly, he only accepted to make you happy, and trust me, you don’t want to be in a pity-relationship.

What does it mean when a guy rejects you?

When a guy rejects you, it could mean several things. First, it could be that you are not his ‘type,’ and that’s alright. Just because you are not what he is looking for does not mean something is wrong with you. We all have preferences, and he has a right to act on his. Another reason could be that he is not ready for a commitment or is going through a phase in which he wants to be alone.

How do guys feel after rejecting a girl?

No one likes to deliver bad news, well, except if the person is a sadist. I asked this question on social media, and many guys claim to always feel sad after a rejection, but that does not mean they regret their actions. This should be seen as bravery because the cowardly thing to do would be to say yes to you but not mean it deep down.

Can a guy change his mind after rejecting you?

Absolutely. A guy can change his mind after rejecting you, and this is why it is essential to know how to act around a guy who rejected you. If you honor his decisions and let go, it could make him have a rethink seeing that you respect yourself too much to be begging for affections. Also, there may have been a shift in circumstances, which could make him want you back.

How do you tell if a guy is rejecting you?

The number one tell-tale sign that a guy is rejecting you is that he will tell you. Do not make the mistake of thinking he is joking or will come around. Take his words for what they mean and move on. Other indications that he is rejecting you include making excuses for dates, not calling you, and flirting with other people openly.

In Conclusion

Rejection is an experience almost everyone has and will experience, but no one ever gets used to it. It is, therefore, vital that you equip yourself with the right ways to handle it. I hope you enjoyed reading this article, don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comment section below. Also, be a good friend and share this article with your friends. 

April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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