Do I Love My Boyfriend? (7+ True Signs)

by April Maccario

Perhaps you have been dating your boyfriend for a while now and now you are wondering whether you have fallen in love with him without even realizing it. So, how do you tell whether you are in love with him yet or not? It is not always obvious or easy to tell whether you love someone, so it helps to know the signs that you should look out for. 

Telling your boyfriend that you love them for the first time is often a very scary thing to do, so it is important that you are sure about how you feel before you make any rash decisions. It can be even scarier to decide to commit the rest of your life with someone. If you tell a person that you are in love with them you want to be sure that you do. 

There are many ways to know whether you are in love with someone and it is helpful to look for these signs when you are trying to figure out how you feel about your boyfriend. Do you just find him attractive physically or do you really love everything about him? Keep reading to find out whether you love this guy or not. 

Do I Love My Boyfriend?

You likely need to ask yourself some questions including, do you find him attractive in a physical way, does he make you feel confident in yourself, do you share the same values and beliefs as he does, do you consider him to be one of your best friends and can you accept his flaws as well as all of the good things about him? 

If you are wondering whether your boyfriend is the love of your life, you likely have really strong feelings for him and your relationship is moving into a serious direction. It is time to decide whether you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person or you tell him how you feel and commit to him. 

It is important to remember that the feelings of excitement that you may have at the beginning of your relationship will likely not last forever and that these feelings are not the same as benign in love. If you love someone you will commit to developing your bond with that person. It can take time to find but it will be worth it when you do. 

1. Everything makes you think of him

Do you go shopping and you see his favorite cookie and immediately think of him? Or do you walk past a clothing store and see a shirt that he would like and your thoughts immediately turn to him? If, whenever you see things that he likes, you immediately start thinking of him, you may well be in love. 

2. Do you think he is physically attractive?

Do you think he is physically attractive

His physical appearance may have been the thing that first attracted you to this guy, but if not it is still important to question whether you find your boyfriend physically attractive or not. 

Remember that even if a person’s looks is not one of the most important things to you, which is a good thing, it is important to consider his hygiene as well as his lifestyle. 

It is important to consider whether you find him attractive physically. You need to find a partner that matches your lifestyle too and looks for the same as you. This does not mean that your boyfriend needs to be a top model but it is important to ensure that there is at least a small amount of physical attraction there between you. 

Often, if you found him attractive at the beginning, this will never go away and you will always find a way to get it back even if you lose it. The attraction is important in love relationships but it is important to remember that it is not the only thing. Physical attraction alone is not enough to build a healthy relationship on and it is important to look for more. 

3. Does he make you feel good and confident about yourself?

When you are with someone and you are wondering whether you are in love with them, consider whether he makes you feel good and confident about yourself when you are with him. 

If you are with someone just because it is easy or comfortable but he doesn’t make you feel like the best version of yourself, it may not last long term. 

It is definitely not a good idea to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn’t make you feel good about yourself. If your partner always criticizes or puts you down for every little thing that you do, you may be in a toxic relationship and it is important to think about finding a way out in order to be happy and move on.

Even though you might love a person, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are good for you. If he doesn’t make you feel great about who you are then it may be time to think about walking away from this guy. In any relationship, it is important that you encourage and support each other to be the best version of yourselves. 

4. Do you have the same values as your boyfriend?

It is not necessary to share exactly the same values as your boyfriend, however, if you love a person, it is likely that you do have a lot of the same values and opinions in common with each other. If you want to develop a long-term serious relationship with someone, it is important that you are able to bond on an emotional level based on the same values. 

It is likely going to be really difficult to build a long-term and healthy relationship with someone if you are not able to connect on some points at least. You might disagree about some topics but it is important that you share the same core values and you also respect the differing opinions of your partner too, otherwise, your relationship is likely never going to work out

Furthermore, if you find that you don’t even respect your partner or his opinions, it is time to realize that you may not be compatible with each other. The foundation of most healthy relationships is respect and the ability to allow each other to have their own opinions without any judgment

5. Do you consider him to be one of your best friends?

If you are trying to determine whether you are in love with your boyfriend or not, consider whether you see him as one of your best friends. Is he the first person that you tell when something happens in your life? Is he the person that you go to when you are upset or stressed? Is he the person that you want to spend all of your time with?

If you can’t wait to tell him your news, first, before you tell anyone else then it is likely that you do love your boyfriend. Consider also how much his opinion matters to you and whether he is the person that you go to for advice when something has gone wrong in your life. When relationships turn into love, he will become your best friend too. 

It is important to remember that this doesn’t mean that you should forget about all of your other friends and spend all of your time with him instead, but in a healthy, serious relationship, it is important that you consider him to be one of your best friends and a person that you can confide in. Do you consider him as more than just the person you are dating?

6. Can you accept his flaws?

It is important to consider when you are asking yourself "do I love my boyfriend?" whether you can accept him for the person is he, including all of his flaws. Consider whether you can accept everything about him. 

If you know that you are ready to put effort into loving and accepting this person despite his flaws, there is a good chance you are in love with him.

If you are constantly wishing that he was different or you are always trying to change something about him and get him to act differently, then it is likely that you are not the right person for him. In any relationship, it is important that you love everything about a person and you accept his flaws too, otherwise it is never likely to work out. 

If you are always trying to change him and to get him to behave differently, consider why you are with him and whether you would ever be able to accept him for the person that he is. Your relationship is never going to work out if you cannot accept this person for who he is. It is also important to consider whether he accepts you too. 

7. You are happy

You are happy

When you are in love with someone, you will be happy. You will genuinely be happier in yourself if you are in love. It is a natural feeling of high when you are with someone that you love and they love you back. Does the thought of spending time with him excite you and make you happy? Does looking at photos of the two of you make you happy?

The thought of being in love with him may make you feel a bit nervous but happy at the same time. You are excited about what the future holds and about the plans that you have made together. Even if you don’t know exactly what will happen in the future, the thought of spending it together makes you feel happy and content. 

You know that you want this relationship to last and you believe that it will. The thought of spending the rest of your life together makes you happy and excited more than it scares you. It is normal to be a bit nervous about committing to a person in this way, but ultimately, it is important that it makes you happy. 

8. It feels easy with him

If you are trying to figure out your real feelings for your boyfriend, it is important to consider whether your relationship feels easy or not. If it is a constant struggle, it is likely that it won’t work out in the future. It is important that the relationship feels natural and easy and if it does, this is a sign that you are in love with this person. 

Your arguments don’t last very long and you find it easy to figure it out with each other. Remember your past relationships and whether you argue less than you used to with your ex. If even your arguments are easier, it is a sign that you are really meant to be with this person. It is normal that all couples argue, but when you are in love your relationship is your priority. 

When you love a person, your relationship is more important than your feelings about being right. If you are able to let arguments go just because he means so much to you. You aren’t worried about winning the argument because you know that your relationship matters more to you than winning a trivial argument. 

FAQs

How do you know if you really love your boyfriend?

If you are in love with your boyfriend, your relationship will feel easy. It is likely that your arguments are as intense as they used to be in your last relationships and you don’t care about winning arguments because ultimately your relationship means more to you than winning a trivial argument. If this is the case you may be in love. 

Do I love him or the idea of him?

When you are trying to determine whether you are in love with a person, it is important to recognize that there is a difference between loving a person deeply and loving the idea of them that you have in your head. If you are constantly trying to change him and you hope that he will become a different person, you likely aren’t in love with him. 

Why don't I love my boyfriend as much as he loves me?

Just because you love a person, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he will love you back. This is the harsh reality. However, it is important to remember that this does not mean that he will never love you back, it may just take him more time to develop these feelings. Some people need more time to be sure about how they feel toward their partner than others. 

Why do I like my boyfriend?

If you are wondering why you like your boyfriend, consider whether he makes you feel happy and whether he makes you feel good about yourself. If your relationship is easy and you consider your boyfriend to be one of your best friends, no one feels this way unless they find themselves in a healthy relationship.

How do you test a guy to see if he really loves you?

If you want to know if a guy really loves you, consider how he acts around you. If he really cares, he will let you know how he feels about you. 

To Sum Up… 

If you are wondering whether you love a person ask yourself the above questions. However, it is important that you don’t rush into anything and you make sure about how you feel before you tell people that you love them. 

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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