Boyfriend Tells Me What To Wear (3 Reasons Why & What To About It)

Does your partner ever discourage you from wearing certain outfits? Or perhaps he’s telling you what you can or can’t dress like all the time? 

It’s certainly emotionally tough when your partner is telling you what you should look like and which clothes you should be wearing, and it’s confusing to get to the bottom of why they’re trying to control you in this way.

However, there’s no need to be confused and upset anymore, because, in this article, we’re going to tell you the reasons why your boyfriend is telling you what to wear, and what you need to do about it. So, let's get into it.

3 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Tells You What To Wear

1. He’s controlling

If your partner is telling you what to wear all the time, it’s definitely a red flag that he’s trying to control you. Obviously, if your partner tells you that he doesn’t like your outfit very irregularly, such as once or twice, then maybe he just simply doesn’t love your new dress or the top you’ve just bought. However, if your boyfriend is telling you which clothes you should and shouldn’t wear, or says that you’re not allowed to wear certain clothes, he’s most likely controlling you.

If your partner shows other signs of control, such as being manipulative, selfish, not letting you see your friends or family and abusive towards you, it’s most likely that you’re in a controlling relationship.

2. He’s jealous

A reason why your partner might be telling you what to wear is because they’re a jealous person, and therefore they don’t want other people to see you looking good. You’ll be able to tell if this is the reason because when you want to wear something that shows a bit of skin or dress a little more risque, that’s when they will tell you that they don’t appreciate what you’re wearing and try to control it. 

They will be trying to control the way you look because they struggle with their own insecurity and low self-esteem, so instead of actually spending time to deal with their own issues, they force you to change because they’re too jealous to cope.

3. He doesn’t love your fashion sense

If your partner is telling you what to wear or suggesting a certain thing for you to wear, they’re doing so because they’re either jealous or controlling, or both. However, they may be doing so because they don’t like your fashion sense. 

If your partner is very fashion-conscious, they might want you to dress in a way that suits their style. However, this still doesn’t make it acceptable for them to be telling you what you should look like all the time. A partner should love you for who you are, regardless of which clothes you have.

What Should You Do About It

1. Ask your partner why they’re telling you how to dress

The only way you’re actually going to find out why your partner tells you how you should dress is by speaking to them. If you feel confident and comfortable enough to do so, you should have a serious conversation with your partner about why they’re trying to control the way you look. 

When you confront them, make sure you’re in a safe environment so that if your partner gets aggressive towards you, you’re protected and you can leave the situation without being harmed.

2. Realize that you are your own person

Regardless of what reason your partner has for the way they act, you need to understand and realize that you are your own person. You are the only one that should be deciding what you look like, and your partner shouldn’t have any input. 

Although this sounds as it’s a simple thing to realize, if your partner has been manipulating you for a while, you might find it difficult to see yourself as a worthy, independent individual. However, you must realize that you can wear what you want, do what you want, and say what you want. 

3. Make him accept your independence or leave

There are only two options in this situation - either your partner accepts your independence and doesn’t interfere with your wardrobe again, or you leave him. If your partner is controlling and overly jealous, it’s probably best for you to leave him, as the partnership will most likely be toxic and unhealthy.

However, if your partner has been conscious about your fashion sense and has been trying to help you dress differently in a misguided manner, and they promise to never do it again moving forward, you might want to stick around for a bit longer.

Overall, you should never be with someone that tells you what to do and doesn’t respect your own independence and individuality.

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In Conclusion

Hopefully, after reading this article you understand why your partner is telling you what to wear, why it’s absolutely not acceptable for him to do that and how you should deal with the situation. Remember, you can wear whatever you want to wear, because you are your own person, and no one should control you!

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