8 Unfortunate Signs You Are Better Off As Friends

by April Maccario

There’s always that one guy that you might feel compelled to be with because maybe you’ve been best friends with them since high school or maybe their lives and yours link up perfectly. Or, perhaps you’ve just got into a relationship with someone that you thought you were really interested in but the sparks have dwindled.

Whatever the specific situation is that you’re in, it’s difficult to not know whether you’re destined to be friends or lovers with someone. So, that’s exactly why this article exists. We’re going to take a look at the 8 signs you are better off as friends with someone.

Are You Better Off As Friends? 

1. There’s no sexual chemistry.

Although the amount of sex a couple has typically decreases over time, after the honeymoon stage of a relationship, there should still always be sexual chemistry between a couple. Even more so, you should never get into a romantic relationship with someone if you feel like there’s no sexual chemistry between the two of you because undoubtedly sex is a necessary thing in a healthy relationship. 

If you are already in a relationship and questioning whether you should be in a friendship, this is one of the most obvious signs, and the reason you will probably be saying “I feel like my boyfriend and I are just friends”.

If you are thinking about going into a romantic relationship with a friend but there’s no sexual tension and you don’t want to jump into their arms, it’s best not to start a romance.

2. You don’t miss him when he’s not around.

In a romantic relationship, each partner will miss the other when they’re apart. Although it’s great for people in a relationship to have independence, you should miss your partner when you’re not with them, because you’d rather do pretty much every by their side.

Therefore obviously if when you’re apart from this person you don’t feel a longing to run straight back to them and they don’t really cross your mind, you’re probably best going back to friends or staying as friends.

3. You feel attracted to other people.

You feel attracted to other people

It’s normal for people in relationships to feel attracted to others, after all, we don’t just stop feeling attraction. However, people that are committed and want to stay in a relationship with their significant other, or those that are planning on becoming partners with someone, will never act on this attraction. 

If you’re already in a relationship with someone, it’s fairer to put them into the friend zone if you feel way more attracted to others in comparison to how you feel about them, and you want to act on these feelings of attraction.

If you are thinking about starting a relationship with someone that’s your friend, but you’re more attracted to other people, it’s probably best to pursue the attractions you have rather than shack up with your friend that you don’t feel much passion towards in comparison.

4. You have different morals and values.

It’s pretty normal to be friends with people that have slightly different morals and values to yourself, and in fact, knowing with such people can open your eyes to other opinions and it can be intriguing and interesting. 

However, if you have different morals and values with someone that you are in a relationship with, or planning to be in a relationship with, this is a huge problem. Although couples might disagree slightly on moral issues and values, they will generally have the same set of morals that they live by. If you try to shack up with someone that’s completely different in this respect to you, you will have a really hard time having a successful relationship.

5. There’s not a deeper level connection.

One of the most obvious signs that you’re better of being friends with someone is if there is nothing more than a surface-level connection between the two of you. In order to fall in love with someone, there needs to be a deeper, more meaningful and intimate connection, and if this doesn’t naturally exist between two people, it’ll be incredibly hard to try and make it occur.

If you feel like you can’t talk deeply about life and love and all of the obscure and wonderful things you’ve always wanted to discuss with someone, you should definitely not be lovers. Instead, stick to a friendship with them.

6. You want to spend time alone.

You’ll know that you’d be better in a friendship with this person if you actually prefer spending time alone. Of course, it’s normal for successful, happy couples to spend time apart too, but the difference is, they normally don’t prefer being separated.

If this person is already your partner and you crave being alone and would rather spend all of your time by yourself, then you’re not in love with them and you need to put an end to the partnership.

If you are not yet together, but you’d still rather spend time alone than meet up with them, do not change your friendship into something more, because you clearly don’t feel that way about them.

7. You don’t go on romantic dates or spend time one on one.

As things progress in dating and two people become a couple, the number of romantic dates that they go on normally decreases, but will never fully come to a halt. A huge sign that you’re supposed to be nothing more than friends is if you’re together but never date. Romantic dates are the perfect way to show how much you mean to each other and keep things fresh, and if you’re not doing that, things are seriously wrong.

If you’re not already with this person, a sign you should stay friends is if you rarely spend time alone with each other and if you always prefer to meet up together and hang out as a group, with others.

8. You constantly questioning the future of the relationship.

Although each of the signs above is a great indicator of whether you should be friends or more, the biggest sign of all is the fact that you are reading this article, because it means that you are questioning the partnership, doubting the future of it and most probably realizing you aren’t on love with this person in a romantic sense.

FAQs

Are we better off as friends?

If your relationship with someone resonates with the 8 points above, then it’s a sure sign that you should be in a friendship with this person, not a romantic partnership. If you hang out like friends, have very little attraction to them, and don’t think that you’ll ever be in love with them, you’re definitely better off as friends!

Is it better to be friends than lovers?

Being lovers with someone and having a fulfilling romantic relationship is one of the best things in life. However, if you don’t feel love towards someone and there’s absolutely no romance there, there’s no reason for you to try and be lovers, instead, you would be better off as friends.

How do you tell someone you're a better friend?

One of the most important things in a relationship of any kind, including a friendship, is communication. So if you want to tell someone that the two of you work as friends more than lovers, you just need to be honest and communicate that with them. They could be hurt by it, but to be honest, they might be relieved, as it might not have been fulfilling them either.

Can you be friends with someone you have feelings for?

The answer to this question really depends on how strongly you have feelings for someone. If you absolutely adore and love someone, it’s going to be very difficult for you to just be a friend to them. However, if you feel mildly attracted to someone, you can still be a good friend to them and enjoy a happy friendship.

Are we dating or friends?

It can be really confusing trying to figure out if you’re dating someone or just friends with them. However, some of the most obvious signs you are dating someone, or your friendship has turned into something new, is if the two of you are flirting, if there is sexual chemistry and if you spend a lot of time alone together.

In Conclusion

Hopefully, this article will have helped you figure out whether the person you are with or plan to be with, is actually someone you’re in love with, or could be in love with, or whether they the two of you would actually be happier being friends. 

Just remember, you will find the love of your life, maybe this just isn’t the time.

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April Maccario
I'm a huge nerd when it comes to understanding how relationships between men and women work, and what drives a certain behavior. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life.

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